Have you split up with someone you love whilst they sort themselves out? Did you go back?

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After 3 yrs together my OH is stuck dealing with some personal issues. I'm trying to understand where they're coming from, but I find it hard and it's affecting my life too.
WIBU to leave her, hoping she'll deal with stuff, and then try to get back together?
I don't want anyone else. I love her, and being with her, but she's stuck.
I feel mercenary, but I'm disappearing a bit in this.
Tell me some stories where you have returned and it's worked out.

Ok, I’m in a similar situation. I don’t know what the answer is! It’s just not sustainable being kept a secret but I don’t want to give up on someone I love who is struggling psychologically.

YANBU to find this very difficult, and something which you may not be willing to live with for the long(er) term. You could say to your OH that you love her but you plan to be open with people starting on X date, and hope she'll see then that the sky doesn't fall in. She then has the options of attending counselling with you, or deciding to leave, before X date.

How much do you discuss with the person you work with - how would they get to know "all about your OH's personal life", if they know you are together? Would that cause particular problems at work, or is it probably an unfounded concern?

My ex boss was like this, so far in the closet she was in Narnia. Her partner was gorgeous, everyone at work knew about her existence but my boss pretended she was a friend. Our workplace had at least 5 gay employees (male and female) on our site and it wasn't a problem for them in issues of acceptance, promotion etc. She was just bloody odd.