To tell friends I don’t want to keep my bridesmaid dresses forever?

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I’m in the middle of a massive clear out, and due to being fed up at the clutter I’m being fairly ruthless.

I currently have 3 bridesmaid dresses hanging in my wardrobe, one from my sister’s wedding 4 years ago and another 2 from just last year.

Basically I don’t want them any more. My plan is to ask the relevant brides if they want them back, maybe they want one as a keepsake/memory, or maybe they could collect back and sell them all.

My sister will say just get rid as she is v practical, one friend wil not be offended at all, but the other I think probably expects me to want to treasure it forever because it was what I wore on her special day etc etc.

I don’t want to just get rid and not say anything because knowing my luck she will then ask to see it one day and I’d have to fess up to just getting rid, so feel like I need to tell her I don’t want it and ask her what she wants me to do with it.

She only got married last summer so it feels a bit soon but I don’t have space for something I’ll never use again and want it gone.

If it were you would you be offended?

I threw mine from my cousins straight in the bin the day after as it was awful - she's never asked to see it and that was 6 years ago.
I've never thought about what my 2 bridesmaids did with theirs!!

I've only kept my BM dress as I've got a hobby involving evening wear so it's handy/earning its keep. Get rid to a charity shop or something.

Can you tell the precious one that the moths got it or something, to make it inevitable that you got rid? Then get rid of it far away from her.

hobby involving evening wear
Sounds intriguing! What is it so I can take it up?

I have no idea what happened to my bridesmaids' dresses. I'd find it really weird if any of them asked me if I minded what they do with them.

Hobby involving evening wear must surely be p/t vampire

Sell or donate.

I'd expect brides to only care about what happens to their own dress to be honest. I can't imagine a scenario where someone asks to see their bridesmaid's dress again

I tested the water with my sister who I was sure would say she doesn’t care and she said she’ll take it and store with her wedding dress.

I’m surprised!

I’m seeing the precious one on Sunday so I might see if she wants it and she can take it home.

Just get rid and don't say anything. Why would she ever want to see it? If she ever does just pretend it's in the attic or in a storage facility somewhere.

I wouldn't expect anyone to have kept their outfits from my wedding, it wouldn't even enter my head to ask someone what they did with theirs. The day has been and gone, all you need from it is photos and nice memories.

Nothing as exciting as vampirism, sadly. Form of dance that feeds into a season of balls. So a free frock was handy

I was a bridesmaid about 18 months ago
I didn’t want the dress and storage space is limited. I got the dress made into 3 teddy bears by a lady on Facebook
My friend is expecting and is due this month so I plan to gift her one of the bears , I’ve kept one to remind me of the day and I’ll keep the third incase they have another child
Really nice way to remember the day and pass a part of the day down the generations

There are charities which take dresses to give / hire out for proms etc
May look into that at least it will get worn again

Depending upon the design of the dress, if the brides don't want them back, then you could sell it as a Prom dress.
Feb is about the time that girls start to look round for their Prom outfits, so it might appeal to someone. It will get worn again, some young girl will get a bargain and you might make a couple of quid!

It wouldn't even occur to me to say anything. It's none of their business, surely? They're your dresses.

Tell her moths got it!