To think early pregnancy unit isn't the place for someone miscarrying at 18 weeks?

[ALittleCrisp]

Just that really. My maternity notes say below 20 weeks, the early pregnancy unit will deal with you.

Two previous hospitals I've been to send you to labour ward.

You're sitting and doing a lot of waiting in a room/no beds in the early pregnancy unit of my local hospital.

If I do start to lose this baby at 16-18 weeks, surely it's bizarre to send the woman to the early pregnancy unit? Or will the early pregnancy unit examine me and then send me off to labour ward?

Apologies for morbid post. I will be speaking to my midwife. I've had a grim experience of birthing so far

Oh my follow up appts were on the gynae ward too

When I miscarried I was sent to the epu. There were women with several kids in the same unit. I came out of the exam crying my eyes out while they sat looking at me. I was treated very badly. My pregnancy was dismissed as 'it happens to so many women, you'll have another '. They even suggested I'd imagined the pregnancy all because I was just over 6w when I miscarried. Awful experience. This was at north Middlesex hospital

It was horrific. I have a scan photo of my baby and you can tell it is a tiny foetus on the scan. I saw the baby too, when I miscarried. I ended up with PTSD. Fingers crossed for you with this pregnancy. Lovely that you have your beautiful little boy too. Sending you unmumsnetty hugs.

When I lost my baby at 20 weeks it was on the ward attached to the EPU. They had a way out so you didn’t even bump into pregnant women. God forbid that is the situation they make a private room available for you. I was treated with so much dignity and respect. I really hope you have a sucessful pregnancy and live healthy birth.

I had an incomplete miscarriage at about 9/10 weeks. I am in Ireland. I had to go for a D&C and after surgery, I was put in with all the women in the maternity ward. Everyone had there baby’s with them but to be fair, I was so relieved to have it over, I didn’t really care. Hope everything goes ok for you.x💐

I lost my baby at 15 weeks, I had to go on the labour ward, at my local hospital right at the end of the corridor they have two rooms for babies born sleeping, lovely rooms but unfortunately you have to walk down the corridor of the labour ward. Although you are at the end of the ward and I was put in the one furthest away from anyone I still heard a baby been born and found it extremely distressing as I was In agony loosing mine. The midwife was amazing though and very sympathetic. Afterwards she did let me out of a side door so I didn’t have to walk any of the ward again. I Understand in the circumstances they have got the two rooms for ladies miscarrying but I only wish they could be situated a little out of the way :( totally understand the pressure on the midwives though. Sorry to everyone who has been through the same xx

crisp The epu sees you 16weeks and below and I think maternity sees you above that. I was admitted to gynae ( ectopic at 6 weeks ish) so assume other early losses that require a hospital stay would go there as well but not 100% sure. Don't know what happens for later losses, I know some hospitals have separate suites but don't know about my local trust.

The EPU at my hospital is in a separate building to the maternity ward. It's on the gynae ward. I was there after my ERPC and much preferred it as I didn't have to see any babies.

I was overseas so not hugely helpful but I was put on the postnatal wars ahead of my D&C and woke up in recovery next to a woman who had just had a c section. I’m pleased that a lot of hospitals here sound more sensitive but sad that a few are still in the dark ages

So sorry to those who have lost

YANBU. I had a late loss at 20 weeks, I went to A&E and they told me it was just stretching pains and sent me home. Turns out the pain was indeed contractions and I laboured for 4 hours at home before eventually having her at 2 am. I rang an ambulance and they took me to hospital, to check me and to ultimately to surgically remove placenta. Fortunately they had me in a room in the gynaecology ward and I was no where near pregnant women or newborns whilst there or in my route out. That would have been quite literally unbearable.

I was treated by the EPU for a MC but as PP have said they channelled you to another area which was actually away from those still pregnant.

I was admitted to the gynae ward with an 11 week miscarriage and haemorrhage. No one had told me I’d have contractions: it really added to the shock.

When my next pregnancy was medically difficult at 20wks, I was admitted to the antenatal ward. Fortunately, I was lucky that time (and DD is now 8).

I hope things go okay for you, OP.

to all those who have been through loss.

I was sent home to miscarry at 12 weeks. Told by a Dr that it would be like a slightly heavier period. The next day I'm in a and e pushing out clots the size of plums and losing more blood than I did when I gave birth to my full term babies.

When I had my ERPC with my third miscarriage, they put me in a general surgery ward - mixed sex. You'd think it was awful but it was actually fine, it was mostly old blokes, no reminders of pregnancy or babies or children at all.

When I had my second baby (now 6 month old), they had my son and I right next to a woman who had lost her baby. I live in Australia.

By this stage it was only her and I in a room for 6.

I thought it was terrible as the poor woman kept saying she wanted to leave, my son was crying.

I walked straight up to the nurses station and asked if they wanted me to move as my son was obviously distressing her. I

I've had a sister lose triplets and all I could think is what she had to go through. They'd put her in a private room at the time, but could still hear all the babies on the ward.

It would be a private hell having to listen to babies cry in a ward let alone next to you, when you've lost a child. I'm more considerate and empathetic to those around me.

Nurses moved me, as there were empty beds in other rooms, but never thought to ask me to move. I would've thought it was obvious.

Guess it depends on how full wards are.

I was told I'd have a bed on the maternity ward but refused to go there and ended up on a general ward with women who kept shouting past my closed curtains and asking why I was there and wouldn't leave me alone when I didn't answer them.