To divorce my husband as he refuses to download WhatsApp

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Obviously light hearted but he is driving me insane!!!

We are trying to organise a summer holiday with friends and he is refusing to download WhatsApp (he hates social media) so I can create a group chat to organise dates etc.

I've tried to explain it's not social media and only a method of texting but he is digging his heels in.

I'm thinking this is grounds for divorce

Why does he need to be included?

If he doesn’t want to join in then fine - no decisions for him to make. Which means everything your way and he cannot complain.

Plus whatsapp isn’t social media. It’s online communication.

Can’t you just use WhatsApp next to him? Why do you need a whole massive conversation about dates , just get some sorted and then tell your dh

You can organise for him, can't you?

I manage without FB, twitter, WhatsApp etc etc. I struggle to see why people want to advertise their whole life to all and sundry.

Oh Lordy Lady!
I’m sure many wish they had your ‘problems’ 🙈
Made me LOL no jokes!
Hats off to the hubby for digging his heels in!
#TeamHubby ✅
Ps: just keep him updated via your own watsapp and it can be some sort of ‘quality’ time together 🌷

I hate WhatsApp. Its security isn't great and it uses up loads of memory on my mobile. I wouldn't have it if I didn't need it for school mum stuff.

YABU

May I suggest digging a hole in the backyard to dispose of his body when he accidentally trip on his mobile phone cable at the top of the stairs...

WhatsApp doesn’t ‘advertise your life to all and sundry’ @Gth1234. It does mean that other people don’t have to organise for you though. You can take responsibility and sort it out yourself.

I’d personally find it a bit annoying, like with one friend in our group that isn’t on it so conversations have to then be text to her so she can be part of arrangements, but it’s not a big deal in the scheme of things.

I struggle to see why people want to advertise their whole life to all and sundry.
except that Whatsapp is no more a social media than an email or a txt. It's just a group messaging device that allow you to add photos and videos easily. You don't "advertise" anything more than you advertise your life in the paper when you send a letter

My DH is on no social media and we manage just fine - he only apps me when he wants me to pick up some milk etc on way home.

Whiter - that's exactly it! Two people have to watch what dates they can go, he is one of them!! Meaning I'm having to play PA and and try and organise them.

For the record I'm not a social media fan at all! Have twitter for school stuff and Mumsnet for my sanity

He is contemplating downloading Mumsnet now as most seem to be on his side lol. Think I'll implement Rosemary's plan

Remember this is light hearted

YANBU. I have one friend like this. She's inherently suspicious of WhatsApp. She uses messenger & texts so it's not a big deal, and I kind of understand not needing 3 mediums of message... but she blogs and has been on insta for years. Her security concerns seem a bit in that light.

He doesn't have to use it

Prolonged discussions about planning drive me nuts - I long for the days where everyone got stuff sorted quickly and easily by calling and saying available dates rather than all the faffing about and online"noise" that seems to facilitate disorganized people talking more about planning events than going to them!

On the other hand that's no excuse for you to do the wifework here , you're not his PA.

Tell him to get the dates sorted directly with the other party, and tell you the outcome.

You don't need to be a messenger in the middle, and the choice of Comms channel is irrelevant here

I don’t do social media either, so I’m on his side.

What’s wrong with text or email?

it is technically a social media platform but that’s by the by

Looks like a perfect excuse for you to step back and let him plan all of it then.

I have an advert on my phone on this page for a divorce lawyer, haha.

I agree with trud this is an excuse to not be involved in the boring admin, you're not his pa so if the majority of the group want to organise via WhatsApp (sensible as it's easier than email or text) then if he wants to go on this holiday and he's the one with the awkward dates he has to be on it.

He can delete it straight after.

He might think he's being inoffensively old fashioned but he's actually being a bit if a dick as it causes everyone, especially you, more work.

If he hates it that much you can do it so it's just on an iPad if he has one (or is he too old fashioned for that either).

I reckon he just can't be arsed organising it so he's leaving it all to wifey 🤷🏼‍♀️

WhatsApp / email / chat are rubbish ways to arrange dates anyway - too much back & forth. Stick everyone into something like Doodle and let them work it all out for themselves.

doodle.com/meeting-scheduler

I'm with DH

What’sapp groups are a pain in the arse I don’t blame him!

What’s his solution?

I think this is his problem to sort, leave him to it.

I know so many people who think whatsapp is social media 🙄

It’s funny because as someone in their early 20s, I have used WhatsApp since it was released (like 2010?) but now find it lame and outdated. I think generally my generation prefers Instagram and snapchat & iMessage and older generations like WhatsApp and Facebook.

With WhatsApp especially I hate random people messaging me out of the blue or being added into shite group chats that spam 100s of messages in minutes (like uni or work projects, a random person’s birthday celebrations etc) It’s annoying that you can’t really control who has you on their WhatsApp as all they need is your number.

So I don’t find it odd that he doesn’t like WhatsApp as I agree that it’s tedious - however I can see how it’s annoying that he’s the only person that can’t access the group chat - he should just use it for the chat

I hate whatsapp too but have it for things like this. Hopefully he's not leaving it to you though :)

I might be old, but I can't think of anything worst than communication with other parents or work colleague on instagram or snapchat.
I can just mute the chats on whatsapp, that helps.

Facebook is a completely different tool.