AIBU with step dad

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Long story but DM passed away 2 years ago, left me her house in total but step dad has the right to live there but is not allowed to co habit, his girlfriend is there all the time (can't prove it's every night) he's now been diagnosed with cancer (early stages) so don't want to cause any upset , but he knows he is not allowed to have someone else love there AIBU to want to approach the subject??

I think you need to speak to a solicitor. If she is living there and your step-father dies, will she legally be consider a tenant due to the length of time she's been there? And would you then need to evict her? Even though your step-father has cancer, you need to speak to him about this.

Do you live there? Can you check and ensure she not staying? Be careful she doesn't try to claim the house,getting her out would be difficult. Seems a it harsh given your stepfather's cancer, but losing the house is a possibility in the long run.

What a weird arrangement. Why did your mum think you'd want to be having to police that after she was gone?

Are you not allowed to sell the house until he dies then? Even if you were in desperate need of the money?

If he's not allowed to cohabit, you're entirely within your rights to kick him out. A solicitor's letter might give him pause for thought.

That's a really strange thing, what's the reasoning behind this do you know?

I don't live there, he never contributed towards the house and he knew the house would never be his, although when DM's will was read he got very nasty as he was told he could not co-habit, ( had a girlfriend within matter of weeks) DM did not want him to be homeless so it was written in, no I am not able to sell house until he either chooses to move out which he won't or dies !! It's standard procedure according to the solicitor....I am aware if he moves someone in they can make a claim on the house, I just don't know how to approach it without being heartless!! There is no way of me knowing how often she stays or even if she lives there as he won't let me in...

OP you have to consult a solicitor or she will gain rights.....

Sorry, OP, but it's YOUR house, he can't just refuse to let you in. Please get a solicitor involved or at least get some advice. I imagine your mum would be horrified.