Divorce

[amandaw20]

Hi all.

I would like advice. My husband has just asked for a divorce. I have 2 kids aged 13 and 11. He has verbally and emotional abused me for about 5+ years. We have been married 15 years have lost my confidence in leaving him. So he is divorcing me on unreasonable behaviour. I am worried about him taking the kids away from me. He has completely lied and brainwashed my 13. So my 13 does not see anything that husband has done wrong. Where do stand. He will do all stops and pull everything out of the bag. I have had post nantal depression twice. I do have a drink with my friends when he goes out, but do not get accessivelly drunk. I do shout at kids when they talk dispectiveky like my husband has do all these years. Thank you got your advice. M

I would go to a solicitor as soon as is possible and get the correct advise on how to proceed and not speculate yourself to the point of anxiety.

Hiya. I have spoken to a solicitor. Paid the money just waiting for the papers to be drafted to see what he has put on there.

Bare in mind that you dont have to accept what he is putting on there. You can challenge it and refuse to sign it - but if you haev a solicitor they should advise you. Get you financials straight - find any info you have about his income and funds - make a judgement about any join accounts - look at transferring out if you think he will cheat you out of money. Where do you live? Rented/owned whos name?

Bascially you have to get your head together. Do whatever you need to to do this. The 13yr old will get a say in where they live so be prepared for that. But make sure that contact and financial settlement are included in the divorce - including who pays for the uni costs if they do live with you.

Good Luck!

Thankyou so much for your advice. I have spoken to solicitor about moving money. I can’t do that as the court know that I have moved money.

We both own the property. He has his own business and I have money aside which he knows about. The Sol said that everything will be divided. I am worried that he has brainwashed my 13 (forgot to mention he is still living in the same house)) to go and live with him if he both boys go. He will have full custody and I will have to leave or sell the house for something smaller. My 11 year said that he is torn. M x

Just have joint residency. No need to make the children choose.