Can I just...

[Idlikeabunchofbananasplease]

I've got two friends who are in their 40s not in very good health because they are both morbidly obese. My question is they are constantly asking for favours all the time and for free. Untill recently I have cut their hedge, decorated their daughters room, walked their dog and more. I'm a very caring person but I feel a bit used. The lady has had a small op to her hand to relieve carpol tunnel she has a 14 year old girl and her husband who has a back complaint but can move about so he's not in wheel chair or anything. They are asking everyone on fbk for people to make cassarols and mop/ hoover. AIBU to feel this is too much to put on people like this. Especially when people work. Do I text her and tell her to get her daughter to help? Very frustratef

Just say no to any more favours, but don't drag their child into it. Her life must be hard enough as it is.

Why are you agreeing to do these things?

If you don't want to help just say no. If they wanted you telling them how to run their lives I am sure they'd ask.

I do say no now. Just think daughter could do some light cleaning to help her mum rarther than asking people for help over face book like they do all the time. Iabu. I thought I might be just run down and a bit techy

If you're saying no others can do the same. Not your business.

How many tones have we heard ' if you need help just ask'

Your not being forced to work for them, beak out.

Wtf is wrong with these people? What weirdos.

I was a single parent to a then 9 year old and asked SS for help when I broke my ankle so badly I was not even allowed to go upstairs on my bum (where the only bathroom is). SS told me my DD could empty my commode, microwave food and put a load of washing on, so I did not need any help.

I did not let DD empty my commode, I had friends pop in to do it, but that was certainly the expectation!

No idea why a 14 year old couldn't help out. My now 13 year old DD2 can cook, put a wash on and do pretty much anything around the house I can, so we do it together most of the time, as I am disabled.

Pristine condition that's very true but these people ask for something to be done every week. I love sooty not what I was saying at all.