Don't want him showing our photos to strangers

[Avalaura]

So my dad being a big show off and my sister agrees. Everytime he comes to see any of us and he gets a phone call he looks at us as if he's got loads of mates.
And whenever he rings us he tells us he's been showing pictures of me and my daughter to people we don't even know.
He said that one time he showed a picture of me to his workmate and he asked if I was single (gross). And yesterday he said he showed a picture of my 4 year old in a dress that he got her for her birthday. Whenever its our birthdayhe says he wants to get us something instead of money because he wants to tell people what he got us.
To show off 🙄😤
He's a big show off and I want him to stop it.

Hes only been in our life for about a year. And he doesn't care about anything but showing off. Hes very needy too.

Your dad has only been in your life for a year?

I'm confused. Why?

Is the problem that he’s showing people photos, or that he’s acting like a proud dad when he hasn’t really earned the right?

It’s not uncommon to show friends and colleagues pictures of your kids. I’ve also no idea how you look at someone as if to say ‘I’ve got loads of mates’. Would this really annoy you as much if he hadn’t been largely absent from your life?

Sounds a bit weird to me, especially showing off about present thing.
My dad (who has been there all my life) occasionally emails a photo of my dd or a wedding photo or something to members of our family who live abroad.

He would certainly not start showing everyone pics of us for no reason. I suppose he does have a pic of my DD with her face painted as a screen saver which may occasionally be seen.

I'm very precious about photos, but a proud dad showing photos of his daughter and granddaughter is fine in my book. Yabu. Do you not show photos of your DD to friends are relatives because you're proud of her?

No I don't think it would annoy me if he had been there all my life. But my dad who has been there all of my life doesn't do weird stuff like that. He is very proud of us and always says how good our photos are but he doesn't need to show off.
My real dads partner doesn't do it and she's super lovely!

If he only met you a year ago maybe he is so excited and proud to have daughters and so that’s why he’s showing people.
Think what people are like when they have a new baby or grandchild, it sounds a bit like that.
And if he looks like he’s ‘ showing off about having friends’ , maybe he wants to impress . I don’t you can’t change your parents, just find ways to accept how they are . ( I am middle aged with a really annoying Dad😊)

How does someone look at someone in a way which “shows he has lots of mates”?

I don’t think you can change your parent’s behaviour .( phone!)

That's what I was wondering Streetwise

Without knowing anything about the backstory, there really isn't anything strange about wanting to show off your dc or grandchildren to your friends. It really is very normal.

If there is a big back story, (and it sounds a bit confusing from what you've written so far) then it might make sense to you, what you have written, but, just going o what you are saying, YABU.

He isn't used to being a dad to you and grandfather to your daughter, probably doesn't know how he should behave. He's trying (very), and gets on your nerves but I think it will all calm down soon enough. He doesn't mean any harm but you could ask him not to flash photographs around to people you don't know, that isn't an unreasonable request.

My birth mom does this too and we barely have a relationship. She takes pics off my facebook and shares them and talks about how proud she is of me. I don't like it, but she has significant addiction and mental health issues and I tend to just let it go because she means no ill will. She really is just proud.

He sound weird. Like really weird... why are you letting him take pictures of your daughter when you know that he shows them to strangers?😐