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Pathetic social media rant

18 replies

Radiosh · 07/01/2019 23:01

My closest and best friend works in a very media-centric career and has many “followers” - I do have social media but don’t use it in the same way. Her feed is peppered with glamorous pics of her job etc and occasionally she’ll put up pictures of her other closest friend - they are both quite media conscious and love a glamorous night out. Today was a big day for me and she very sweetly and of her own accord created a little collage of pictures with a very meaningful, funny caption about our friendship - 20 mins later, I saw she had deleted and replaced with a “story” which expires in 24 hours. I feel a bit sad by this, like she’s embarrassed by me or I’m not very on brand! For the record, I don’t think I’m that off brand?! I take care of my appearance and look fine, we both have a similar look actually although she is prob bit more glam. I wouldn’t care ordinarily but am sad she deleted it!

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LegoPiecesEverywhere · 07/01/2019 23:06

I think you are looking to much into it. If she thought you were off brand she wouldn’t have posted anything.

LonelyAmongUs · 07/01/2019 23:14

I do stuff like deleting posts, usually without thinking, so I wouldn't read too much into it.

Judge her by her words and deeds around you and with you, not on what she does on an internet service.

Smotheroffive · 07/01/2019 23:21

It's interesting that you put those possible interpretations on her deleting it.

She clearly spent time, energy and very kind thought into creating a lovely tribute to you and your special time.

She did that...for you!

I have no negative ideas on why she would delete it, unless you'd had a massive fallout, so can only think it was nothing intended to hurt you. So not of concern.

Glad you had a special time.

indecisivepigeon · 07/01/2019 23:24

Sorry but I would think it was weird that someone went to the trouble of making a collage of pictures of us together only to delete it in less than half an hour Hmm

To be honest I don’t use social media all that much but I did witness my friend create a collage for her sister for Instagram and she really spent some time picking pictures and arranging them.

Smotheroffive · 07/01/2019 23:27

What reasons could there be for deleting? Negative or positive?

Yidette86 · 07/01/2019 23:31

I'd ask her where the post went as you wanted to look at it again and see what she says... I'd find it strange to be honest, did it not get many likes? People can be weird about that sort of stuff

Celebelly · 07/01/2019 23:36

Is it actually deleted? If it's Facebook, 'stories' are things you choose to be highlighted. The original post could still be on her page.

Radiosh · 07/01/2019 23:51

Yep, I’ve checked and it is fully deleted - the “story” is only an excerpt. Have asked and apparently it didn’t get many likes and she got the fear

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Radiosh · 07/01/2019 23:54

I still find it a bit sad, I want to be on her bloody social media lol! Is there anything I can say back without sounding like a freak?! In fairness we barely have any nice pics of us so prob need to work on that! We just spend time having fun rather than taking pictures really

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Badstyley · 07/01/2019 23:55

Sounds a bit pathetic to me. I’d disregard SM stuff and judge her on her interactions irl.

AgathaMisty · 07/01/2019 23:56

Have asked and apparently it didn’t get many likes and she got the fear
What a sad way to live Sad

MardyMavis · 08/01/2019 00:17

And you are friends with this self obsessed twat because?

Radiosh · 08/01/2019 00:23

Because she’s a lovely person!

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emzw12 · 08/01/2019 00:26

Why do you care?
Come off Facebook (or whatever it is) all together it will save your sanity - trust me!

Smotheroffive · 08/01/2019 00:31

Why worry. It sounds like this environment/activity could be quite toxic to you. Probably better for you to take many steps away from it.

starzig · 08/01/2019 01:10

You are actually coming across as a bit upset. I think you really need to stop using social media if your emotions are affected so much by what pictures and stories a friend decides to put up and take down.

Loveweekends10 · 08/01/2019 01:18

Oh dear. This is the craziness of social media. Come off it and live your life. Neither of you need this false acceptance by people - most of whom are probably not real friends anyway!

iklboo · 08/01/2019 07:21

Has she seen the Black Mirror episode 'Nosedive'?

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