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to think dp could have woken up to see dd2 open her birthday presents?

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fryalot · 28/06/2007 18:05

and blow out the candles on her cake?
and ride her new bike for the first time?

(although to be fair, he was up all night and has worked all day, so he has been about 36 hours without any sleep!)

She doesn't seem to have noticed, because he was physically in the room, but I feel so sorry for him that he missed it all, but we couldn't wait any longer.

Tried and tried to wake him up, and couldn't, so in the end I just left him.

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PestoMonster · 28/06/2007 18:07

Oh, what a shame! Still, at least your dd wasn't too worried. Was this today? It's my dd2's birthday tomorrow, will be 8. How old was yours?

sparklesandwine · 28/06/2007 18:09

oh squonk thats I don't know what to say

I know you said he hasn't had a lot of sleep but surely a few minutes wouldn't have hurt - did you save any for her to open with him?

Hulababy · 28/06/2007 18:09

His loss.

So long as your DD is happy, that is the main think.

Have to admit I would be annoyed with him though, but you tried and not fair on youur DD to wait longer.

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fryalot · 28/06/2007 18:10

she's 3 today!

I did try to save some so she could open them with him, but she found them and ripped them open anyway but I did try.

And it is not possible to wake him up when he is asleep - he sleepwalks, and doesn't even wake up to go to the loo.

grr

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sparklesandwine · 28/06/2007 18:14

at least she wasn't too fussed about it but i must admit it would break my heart too if that happened

There's not alot you can do now but if DP feels upset that he missed it too maybe he could nip out and get her a little something to open just from him

tuppy · 28/06/2007 18:15

Maybe you'll think me out of line but tbh I'd have put her birthday "back" a day. If your dh had good reasons to be awake for so long at a stretch, then imo he deserved to sleep and probably in his shoes I'd not have been able to stay awake either.

Hulababy · 28/06/2007 18:16

I think he could have spared 5 minutes to watch her open her presents.

j20baby · 28/06/2007 18:16

oh cr*p squonk, i meant to pop her a card in the post yesterday....Sorry!!!

its a shame for him, but at least she didn't care! can she ride her bike?

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fryalot · 28/06/2007 18:17

tuppy - that may have been an option if I hadn't been saying to her all day "you can open your presents as soon as daddy gets home" because that was what he told me to say to her this morning.

Once he came home, I really couldn't tell her she wasn't having her birthday till tomorrow.

ds's birthday is coming up, and I won't be mentioning it at all until I know that we are all here, awake, compos mentis and ready

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Aimsmum · 28/06/2007 18:18

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fryalot · 28/06/2007 18:18

s'ok, j20 - don't worry yes, she loves her bike and can ride it ok - a bit wobbly but the stabilisers sort that out.

hula - couldn't get him to physically open his eyes. He's still asleep now - he doesn't know he's missed it!

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TnOgu · 28/06/2007 18:18

You should have piled all the presents in on top of him and allowed dd to climb up and open them.

Maybe that would have woken him.

Anyway, Happy Birthday to your dd, squonk.

Hulababy · 28/06/2007 18:19

Could he not have stayed up after getting home, just to watch her open her presents?

TnOgu · 28/06/2007 18:19

[He is actually alive is he squonk?]

tuppy · 28/06/2007 18:22

Oh I see Squonk ! Well in that case I'd be a bit twitchily irritated tbh. Walk in the door...stay awake 5 more mins to see dd...then collapse in bed is what I'd have done.

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fryalot · 28/06/2007 18:27

tnogu - that's exactly what I did, until she complained that "daddy is snoring too loud mummy" and moved!

He hasn't gone to bed - is still on settee behind me.

I think he's still alive.... should I check? nah, I'll just leave him for now.

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j20baby · 28/06/2007 18:29

tell her happy birthday from us, and the kitty's send her big birthday kisses

sparklesandwine · 28/06/2007 18:29

sorry squonk 'Happy Birthday' to your DD

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fryalot · 28/06/2007 18:29

will tell her - she is upstairs playing with her new Dora the explorer quilt cover!

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sparklesandwine · 28/06/2007 18:35

awww bless her how sweet

My DD's 5 and she loves Diego and wants to marry him because he's kind to animals how do i explain?

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fryalot · 28/06/2007 18:37

don't bother - tell her she can marry him when she's 16, and keep your fingers crossed that she goes off him between now and then

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mylittlefreya · 28/06/2007 18:41

That's so sad. I know he will have been tired, and all, but, I would be upset if I was you, squonk. Happy birthday to your dd.

mumto3girls · 28/06/2007 18:44

happy birthday Squonks dd2 xxx

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fryalot · 28/06/2007 18:46

hi mumto3

still.... shouldn't grumble. If he was awake now, he'd be busy on the laptop. As he's still asleep, I can mumsnet

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