To prefer ttc #2 over house improvements and a holiday - is there ever a right time?

[AbitOfaCrummyMummy]

This is a debate I am having with DH. We have a 15mo and I am now back to work. In a nutshell I already want a second and am starting to put bits of money aside for mat leave should we be lucky to concieve. DH agreed that we would ttc this year. I've started saving on the off chance we concieve the first month of actively trying which we agreed would be February (I know this is unlikely but as its possible I want to know I am financially ready).

Now he's thrown a curveball and said he wants a big family hol this summer and to fix a few bits around the house. Realistically we cant afford to do this and then me have enough money to have a year on mat leave. Needless to say I am abit disappointed.

AIBU to prioritise the potential for dc2 over a hol with dc1? Am I selfishly depriving DC1 of something that we may later not be able to afford with 2dc? I am 33 yo.

Do you think this is DHs way of putting off more kids?

You need to ask your DH if he’s putting off having more kids not us! Personally I would get on with TTC, it’s not always as easy to conceive the 2nd time and INHO nice for the kids to be closer in age.

I'd be asking if there was a reason he wants to do that this year. Personally I'd prefer to have the second child. Dc1 is too young to understand missing something they've never had like a holiday. Are the house repairs important and needed or just preference.

No its just 'would like to haves'. I have asked him and he says he isnt putting it off. He's just a typical dreamer in that he sees something he wants it now. Unfortunately with ttc he doesnt see the need to plan as it were. We just realistically cant have a baby without putting money aside as I dont get great mat leave from work and I am the 'breadwinner' (hate that term)