Chomping making me stabby

[ThisTooShallPassInTime]

My DH has recently developed the habit of eating really loudly. He sounds like a starving Labrador scoffing a bowl of wet food. It is making me feel quite stabby toward him!

First I tried being subtle and asked if he had toothache as I thought maybe he was only eating on one side and that’s why he was suddenly so noisy, but he said no.

Next meal I asked if he knew he was chomping and he said he didn’t care as it was easier to eat that way and as he’s at home with just me it is fine.

Perhaps I should’ve left it there as I’m not sure if I AIBU and be should be allowed to eat like a starving dog in his own home?

Anyway, he’s now not talking to me as I snapped (but no farting) during dinner just now and said if he keeps eating so loudly I would sit in a different room as it was driving me crazy. He slammed his fork down and is now sulking in the bedroom.

So AIBU for not being willing to put up with his ‘relaxed chomping’ as it is ‘just me’ in the room?

i wont eat at the same table as my Oh anymore because of the same thing he sounds like a caveman grunting when he eats, so i dish up dinner, give him his, put salt and pepper on mine and eat in the other room

You should play him at his own game, don't close the bathroom door when you have a poo as you're at home with just him

LTB
It’s making me angry just thinking about it, can’t stand hearing people eat!

That is a damn late dinner. Also YANBU.

LTB - I’m packing my cases as I type!
Not really, he’s lovely other than this and it’s only bring going on since new year.

So glad early replies don’t think I’m just being an uptight nag and he should be allowed to eat as he pleases at home.

I give my husband "the look" when he's eating now.... he knows when to moderate his munching. He will however buy chewing gum to piss me off

The death stare sorts dh right out at the table.
Raised by chimps I tell you.

LTB.

chomping, licking his lips like a thirsty dog...those sounds do my fucking head in.

Absolute pet hate. DH does it in his sleep too. I feel like shooting him.

I'll leave mine if you leave yours.

Would putting t.v or radio on when you eat help?

@bunsofanarchy my DH grinds his teeth when he’s asleep, which also grated on me but I get that he can’t help that.

This chomping is too much! I’m thinking maybe his NY resolution is to eat like a dog

I have misophonia - go google it.

It's one of the biggest things I cannot even EVEN with.

Slurping tea, even typing that word is bad for me. Makes me feel sick inside.

It's a huge issue for me and has lost me friends.

I've lost friends over it too.

I eat in a different room now, I just can't even

I'd be asking him which side he'd like the black eye on, to go with the broken jaw.

That’s the reason I have the tele on... and turn it up
My kids and partner think I have a problem... no, I would just rather people didn’t eat like pigs.

Cereal in the morning, I stand in the kitchen and drink my cuppa

But with my partner the WORST is when he eats grapes and popcorn (not together of course)

YANBU. Bad table manners are disgusting and disrespectful to the person you are dining with. I don’t mean using the wrong fork - who cares? - but slurping, gobbling, chomping, eating with your mouth open. UGH UGH UGH. Just typing that makes me start to tense up. And don’t get me started on people who click their chewing gum.

It is even worse that he knows the difference because he has only just started this bad behaviour, and says because it’s just you it’s fine!!!! I’d stamp on this hard, right now.

My dh has developed the noisy eating thing, he works away a lot of the time and it gives me The Rage when he’s home. I now plan meals when he’s home around my tolerance level that day. Ribs I no longer cook full stop. He’s started doing this sucking his fingers and smacking his lips so there’s no more finger food like garlic bread, nachos with chilli, naan bread etc. Nuts are a big no as it sounds like I’ve chucked a handful of spanners in the washing machine.

How do I get over this??

MIL clangs her cutlery on her plate relentlessly. Me and DD were almost at the point of killing her with a blunt spoon on Xmas day.

My adult stepson lived with us for six years after we moved in together. He did this, loud slurp followed by a loud gulp with every sip of a drink, always ate like someone was going to take it off him and with his mouth open. His piece de resistance was when he put something too hot in his mouth and he would throw his head back and kind of gargle the food around in his throat to cool it. Anyone remember the alien woman in V eating the lizard, well it was like that.

I stopped eating with other people for a while because I couldn't bear the unavoidably messy way I ate (nerve problems with my lower jaw after it was harvested to repair a fractured upper jaw).

I couldn't bear myself but I could not possibly have exposed other people to it.

Whereabouts are you, OP, I'll stab him for you.
My DH masticates like our dog sometimes and it's all I can do not to murder him in cold blood. He was obviously brought up like that though, its torture when we eat with his parents. My MiL makes noises like MMMMMMM and LICKS HER LIPS when she's eating, and my otherwise lovely FiL eats like he hasn't been fed in days. I honestly have to look out the window and think happy thoughts.......

YANBU i hate this also. And chewing gum. I will walk out of a cinema if the person next to me is chomping like a goat. Just googled misophonia....

I cannot stand noises like that also!!! Drives me round the bend its becoming unbearable :(

Ergh, stabby indeed. DP eats loudly, clangs her cutlery on her plate like it’s a fucking dinner gong. I’ve moaned to her about it, I really have. My old Labrador was a better eating companion.

Piggy eaters make me rage. I’ve snapped at people on the bus before now. I once told my best mate to stop eating like a pig at his parents dinner table. I can’t stand it, and there’s no excuse for it.