To ask how to get the damned watch off DS?

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Hi all

My unbelievably narc STBXH with major control and manipulation issues (some of you may know the groping/speeding/cameras/We and up in refuge story) bought iur DS aged 6 obe uf tgose vivofit junior watch things to monitor his exercise (monitor me more like) and activity levels. Now, at a push I would understand this for a really sedentary child with (over)weight issues but our DS has a condition which SEVERELY effects his balance and coordination (think brain lesions etc) and severe ligament laxity. He has very flat feet, falls over a lot, fatiguesincredibly easily as a design of these (incurable) limitations. STBXH showed a stunning lack of interest in the children or what they were in to for 6 years until the break up. I did every doctor and hospital appointment. I worked exercises appropriate to our DS and his abilities into his daily routine responding with rest or challenge as appropriate. I come from a sport and exercise background, I am an instructor in "special populations (elderly, ante and post natal etc etc). I still do not know everything.

In waltzes Fucknut to take DS on a 3.5 mike/2hour wall in searing heat. He now has to be present at every appointment and he has got tgis watch. With a step goal of 12,000 a day. He has vobcejientjy deleted me from the app so I can't see what HE does yet he can monitor me. He has questioned my fitness as a mother via a forensic psychologist and effectively says i have stunted our son. He takes him to trampoline parks for ffs. Dangerous for normal people let alone a child like ours. We have been given professional advice and guidance and he pooh poohs it with pomposity, arrogance and patronising missives. This watch is not appropriate in these circumstances and I have said t DS that he can wear it Daddy's house but it comes off at mine. He gets upset and says Daddy says I must wear it every day for my training and to get my moves and points. I get the reward system but Mark my words, he will wheel out the stats in court to try and show I have not done this or that or the other.

How do I get the damn thing off??

Just say no, that it's only for when he is with his dad. End of.

AFFECTS. Stupid phone

If you think he’s putting DS in danger with these walks contact social services and request supervised contact.

but Mark my words, he will wheel out the stats in court to try and show I have not done this or that or the other.

I highly doubt it would be relevant in court, especially as you have medical professionals on your side. Just take the watch away and he will soon forget about it. I wouldn't even provide it for when he's at his dads as it sounds incredibly damaging.

Does your DS have regular appointments at GP or hospital where you could get one of the medical professionals to say its not appropriate. Then it's not you saying it and it would be a mark against your ex

Cut it off while he sleeps and throw it away

I think the wristband just stretches to go over the child's hand.

Omg, you poor thing, OP, the fuckwittery of your ex has no bloody end, does it? I would do as pp said, insist that it comes off and is only worn when he's with his dad. Ffs, you're qualified for this, he is not. A fitbit is highly inappropriate for your child.

If it was me and your ex is such an abusive git, I'd break it. Make it look like an accident if that's kinder to your DS.

I know it sounds stupid but I don't want to upset DS. He's already coming back from cobtact time angry...hitting, pushing and pinching me. DD feeds like a newborn (she's nearly 2.5) and wakes all through the night looking for me and making sure I'm close. I kind of want to pick my battles but the watch is no good for any of us. DS will hate me for making him take it off and I want a calm and gentle life for the DC. They are really struggling with the amount of time away from me having had an indifferent father up until May and never a night away until July.

Softer approach - how long does the battery last?? Hopefully it's one of those which need chargeing every couple of days.

Can it get water damaged, or not replaced on his wrist, after swimming?

Good luck!

Will the school rules allow it? Our school only allows regular watches as the fitness ones get fiddled with or used inappropriately.

The battery, according to spec, is user changeable and doesn't need charging. While it's off for bath time, I might be tempted to take the battery out and replace it with a dead one.

I managed to get it off when we were taking his school uniform off and it got caught in his shirt cuff. I will hand it to Dad and say it doesn't come back here.