I’m currently in hospital with my very poorly baby. Neither of us have had much sleep because we’re constantly being woken observations, medicine, blood tests, general prodding and poking etc. I’m also finding it draining to have to constantly restrain and pin her down while she’s force fed medicine or they do tests as it’s just so upsetting - she’s just had enough now. On top of this I’ve just recovered from 5 day flu and still have a severe headache, sore throat (think razor blades) and chesty (burny) cough. I’m basically knackered and want to go home with a baby who is healthy and happy.
Dm came in today and we had an argument (well she argued with me over bit getting her way and I stood firm). I didn’t cave so she ignored me for the rest of the visit and continued to speak to everyone else in a very overly happy tone (she is known for being childish - Dh/dsis/dsf have all since said This is what you get with her). I am annoyed with myself for then getting upset but at this point I was really feeling shit and I was on the verge of tears and my voice wobbled a bit when I asked dh something. He looked at me, rolled his eyes and said don’t overreact and start an argument with your mum there’s no need. This upset me further because I know he agrees with me on the ‘disagreement’ and he also admitted later that I was not remotely confrontational so I don’t get why he would say it was me causing the argument. A bit later I got tears again because dm was still ignoring me and dh popped out. My toddler was also here and dm was keeping an eye on him while I was settling the baby. My toddler tried to run off out of sight and she just sat there starting into space so I had to run after him and drag him back with the baby in my arms. This happened a few more times when dh got back and then she got up and helped. I was livid and upset and he could see it in my face and just said I think you need to go for a walk you’re losing it. This place is making you nuts.
Now regardless of whether I was in the wrong or not for being over emotional (which I was but due to illness, sleep deprivation, worry for my baby) is there really any excuse for calling me crazy and nuts in front of everyone? I wouldn’t do it to him and if I had to say it I’d do it privately. I’m really upset. He later said oh I was just looking out for you saying you should go for a walk but it wasn’t said in a kind way. Also very belittling to say it in front of everyone. He’s not even so much as given me a hug today and he knows it’s been hell for me.
Aibu or am I right to be upset? I can accept if I need to take a step back but it’s all just getting on top of me and I just want someone to give me a hug and an hours sleep!!