To be so angry

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My son's father didn't even so much as send him a card on his first Chritmas. We had broken up a few weeks before after and he's always been a selfish . I'm fuming and I don't know why, how do I get over this. He's completely ignored his son for over a month now after banging on about how much he never sees him.

A bit. Being his first xmas presumably your child hasn’t noticed.

He sounds utterly selfish. I can't imagine not buying my child a Christmas present, especially if I didn't live with them.

DD was 10 weeks old for her first Xmas. Don’t think we bought her anything but a new bib!

The lack of Christmas card wouldn't annoy me because your child won't understand and can't read so won't miss it but if he is flat out ignoring your child then that is what would annoy me.

It's not the lack of card as such, it's more the principle of how he's completely blanked our son all over chirtmas, not a single message. I know he's too young to remember or care but I just worry about the hurt he may experience if it carries on when he's older. Or maybe I'm over reacting

I don’t think you’re over reacting. It’s very unkind to blank out a child. The only positive in this situation is your baby is young and won’t know.
If he’s stopped contact completely then it’s better he does it now than when DC is old enough to miss him.
I understand your anger.

YANBU, I bet he's telling people how upset he is that he can't see his DS.

Fuck him, don't rise to it.

Has contact been agreed?

NC4now Thank you for understanding, I just don't want him to think he can dip in and out of his life whenever he fancies

Coolhwhip oh yeah all over facebook, the lot I sent a message before new year about sending me dates he can do and a number to call on but got no response