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namechanged93 · 06/01/2019 12:31

So I've never spoke about this before to anyone as I'm aware it could be really strange.
Not sure how to explain it - but basically, sometimes I feel like I have other worlds in my daydreams. There's times where I conjure up imaginary siblings (usually celebrities) in my head and I'll have conversations in my head with them. Sometimes I'll imagine up a whole friend group me and made up people/celebrities and imagine life like that, but I get so in detail about friendships and the relationships, it feels like an alternate world. Or even if it's not made up/celebrities, I will imagine scenarios, be having internal conversations with people I know throughout the day (but they obviously won't be there), but I can have a full conversation/argument with them in my head.
This seems really strange when I'm putting it down into words and I've never told anyone I get so invested in it, it's something I've done for as long as I can remember (since I was 6/7)! This is 100% real and embarrassing for me to talk about but because I've never spoke about it, I've never known how out of range of normal it was.
Any input from anyone?

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knittedjest · 06/01/2019 12:35

As long as it's not obsessive and impeding on your life it is normal, especially if you are lacking in a social connection in some place which considering you have specified siblings I would guess would be there. It's just a form of self-talk that allows you to view a situation from an alternative perspective.

FissionChips · 06/01/2019 12:37

Perfectly normal. There was quite a long thread about it a while back, a lot of people do it.

FeelSomething · 06/01/2019 12:38

I've done it most of my life, usually more when I'm stressed and unhappy so not so frequently now

JcHcks · 06/01/2019 12:41

I do this all the time especially when I go for a walk in my lunch break. I just put headphones in and conjure up all kind of things and they do sometimes include celebrities. Mines so bad though that sometimes I feel myself smiling and have to suddenly correct myself as I realise I look like a loony smiling to myself!!

Thishatisnotmine · 06/01/2019 12:52

For the last couple of months I have been in an imaginary relationship with a 90s punk rock singerBlush. We've eloped, I've watched him at gifs, generally had a nice time in California! I've had an exhaustingly stressfull year and this imaginary world peaked when I was modt stressed. Now I am feeling better I don't need the escape so much.

I've always hoped that everyone does this!

Pachyderm1 · 06/01/2019 12:55

It’s very, very normal - please don’t worry about it! The majority of people have rich interior lives which bear no resemblance to reality.

As long as it isn’t making you unhappy or preventing you from living your life, it’s nothing to worry about.

Thehop · 06/01/2019 12:59

I do this

WiltedDaffs · 06/01/2019 13:01

I do this too.

Sparklesocks · 06/01/2019 13:05

I think everyone had fantasies like this to some extent so don’t worry unless it starts affecting your real life.

I sometimes do my Oscar speech for best actress in the shower, or pretend I’m being interviewed on a podcast when I’m cleaning up..

Nodrama999 · 06/01/2019 13:15

Haha, usually I do this when I’m about to try and convince someone my side of an argument. When they just agree I get frustrated that the conversation wasn’t as I had planned and try to force the arguement on them 😂
There are more norms that seem abnormal than people think. Enjoy it, if people didn’t do this how would we have such fantastic fiction in the world

SylvanianFamiliesNurserySet · 06/01/2019 13:23

I sometimes do my Oscar speech for best actress in the shower, or pretend I’m being interviewed on a podcast when I’m cleaning up.

This is actually one of the ways I improved proficiency in my second language, pretending I was being interviewed about various things. It was a good way to practice putting sentences together, getting your tongue around difficult words, and so on.

As for the rest, I spend half my life daydreaming! I work hard to practice mindfulness as well, but if the balance is working for you overall then 👌.

ClashCityRocker · 06/01/2019 13:32

I have a whole other life in my head.

It's just a story I tell myself. Tbh it's been going on since I was about eight, and I still have some of the original cast!

Just a nice way to idle away some time when I can't sleep really. Sometimes it can be a good way of organising my thoughts about something, by putting into my story context.

Don't know why - I'm perfectly content with my life now and my pretend life would actually be a fucking nightmare some of the time.

ChrisjenAvasarala · 06/01/2019 13:38

I don't, but I occasionally still play The Sims so I think that's my alternative!

Oysterbabe · 06/01/2019 13:40

I do this sort of thing all the time. I don't think it's odd.

Onescaredmuma · 06/01/2019 13:44

I do it too quiet relieved to hear others do it too Grin

Thewindsofchange · 06/01/2019 16:53

I do it too. I had a whole alternative life until I ran out of places to take it. I re-ran it a few times, slightly altered/improved. I was quite sad once I'd perfected it and it ended. I miss my perfect imaginary life.

tablelegs · 06/01/2019 17:10

I do it too. Scenarios change everyday.

loubluee · 06/01/2019 17:19

I do it too!

namechanged93 · 06/01/2019 17:20

Actually pleasantly shocked to see I'm not crazy! Grin

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TidyDancer · 06/01/2019 17:27

Yep I do this too. I think it's fairly harmless (at least for me).

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