To have had enough of DHs constant humming?

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Been married 13yrs and I don't think I can bear another day of the constant humming/whistling. It. Is. Driving. Me. Mad. We didn't live together just us before we got married and I don't remember noticing it as much as I do now. I guess my tolerance has changed. Also our eldest DS has picked up on the habit and has also started doing it too, I pity his future partner!

Have you told him to pack it in?
His colleagues are probably close to stabbing him in the belly with a ruler too.

I've looked into this because my youngest BIL hums. It's usually a self-soothing behavior, a form of self-stimulation. Not very helpful in tolerating the reality of it but it might help understand why he does it.

I've told him countless times, he doesn't realise he is doing it most of the time. I've begged him to stop because of DS doing it now and I don't want the youngest to start too!

It's also a lifelong habit now - I remember him telling me that when he was a child their next-door neighbour mentioned that they could hear him humming loudly in his bedroom every morning!

I mean, he will even start humming absent mindedly during a conversation!

Would putting on some background music help?

I do this too. I don't know why, don't even know I'm doing it half the time

My friend is married to a drummer. He drums his fingers constantly. When they watch tv he drums his fingers. When they're out with friends he drums his fingers. When he's in the car he drums his fingers. I find it maddening whenever I'm around him - I know it drives her crazy too and I've seen her loose it with him about it . The humming thing must be the same - a habit which is seemingly uncontrollable.

I feel your pain my dad has been like this for over thirty years. If anyone would ask him to stop he would say no and continue to whistle louder to be annoying. He's been diagnosed with Alzheimers and he's gotten worse he now sings all the time. I'm not sure how my mum copes with him.

I live with a constant pen clicking, finger tapping hummer. I took away the pens that click and he resorted to tapping the pen repeatedly on the table instead while he's thinking.

I then can't think as I'm waiting for the next click or tap. I swear his gravestone will read "he clicked his way into an early grave"

January

I hear you sister. I've been with DH 31 years and he has hummed every God dammed day of it. Sometimes I can tune out but others (particularly when he does whiny timeless noise) I can actually beating him around the head till the noise just STOPS

DD2 does this. She will talk constantly and if she's not talking she will be singing, if she's not singing she will be whistling and if she's not whistling she will be humming. I have no advice for you as I just take my hearing aids out and have to ask her to stop talking to me for 10 minutes to give me a break.
DH and I have checked with school and she doesn't make the constant noise at school so she is capable of not doing it. When I pick DD2 and DD1 up from school after about 20 minutes I'm done with the noise, especially the repetitive noise and at times have been in tears with her constant noise making.
I actually went to the GP as I felt like I was losing my mind over the constant noise. It had got to the point that any repetitive noise was making me nauseous and I honestly thought that I was losing it and my GP thinks I may have developed misophonia. Even though I turn off/take out my hearing aids I still have some hearing so I have a stash of ear plugs I use for when it gets really bad.

I'm sorry others have this to live with too but glad I have some understanding. I'm not a violent person but sometimes I do just want to smack him on the head. Maybe if I did it every time he hummed he would stop?! (I'm obviously not going to do this.....)

31 years! I don't think I could cope for that long! Don't suppose there is much choice though.

My DH is a terrible whistler / hummer. He does it very loudly and very often.

I think it's catching. When my brother comes round, he joins in with the whistling / humming and my SIL gets really annoyed at my brother 🤣