AIBU to hate weekends with the family?

[Flyingfish2019]

Sorry millytrees for stealing your thread name...

I am a SAHM, DH works a lot. Nevertheless looking forward to the weekend because I hope we will do things as a family then... weekend comes and we do just nothing. Everybody likes to sleep in. Everybody apart from me.
Dh has ptsd so that we do not go out nearly as much as I would like to. Often BIL comes to visit and I do think he is annoying... not that he is a bad person but boisterous, braggy and a potty mouth. He is younger than us and I think it matters much. Often we end up in arguing over the words he uses in front of our children.

Often we end up watching TV which I
Often I end up going places with the children without dh which makes me sad.

Thank you @Mumofaprinny I think I never showed him how serious I am about this. I did not want to be mean.

@Singlenotsingle Another great idea.

Sallycinnamonbamgsthedriminthe BIL is actually disabled. He has a walking impairment and I do not think hiking would be much fun for him.
I am not sure if there is much both can enjoy outside because dh hates crowds and BIL cannot go hiking. Both enjoy cooking or occasionally board games... but what they enjoy more and what hubby enjoys most when BIL is not there is watching TV and I do not enjoy this at all and do not think it is good. Dh choose family movies when the kids are awake but still...

Maybe I could find something both enjoy outside if the home but I am not sure what it is and they are not actively seeking.

I think you sound put your thinking hat on or sit down and ask him what he would like to do? Was there something he’d love to do but hasn’t got round to it yet? See how that goes and hopefully you can work something out. I do think that if he’s doesn’t shake himself though, that you are going to have to shake things up yourself. I would not say it’s mean, it’s just making him see how he is making you feel. Do they like fishing or maybe even going to see a foot ballmatch?

Why do you keep going on about hiking? You need to find other things as well. Young kids cant go hiking.

I think there needs to be some give and take. You cannot expect him to go hiking every weekend and if you're keen on reconnecting, it might be worth engaging in what he enjoys such as a good TV series where you can talk about it afterwards.

What things, other than hiking (which you seem a bit fixated on) do you both enjoy doing together? Do the kids go hiking with you??

We took our kids hiking. Took our Thule chariot with us, no problem.

It does not have to be hiking... but I am not happy with watching TV so much, also him and me like differentthings on TV and of course not everything is okay for the children.

Hiking is in fact an activity he chose. Last year we had a heart to heart talk and he told me he was unhappy with his life and that there were things he wanted to change. Basically he hates his job but works a lot in this job he hates and in his freetime he watches TV. I said itis the He enjoys most... but enjoys is the wrong word here. It iswhat he does most.

So we went hiking, we went to the zoo. He said he enjoyed it a lot... but now he is not making an effort.

I would be okay with any activity... but it has to be one thatdoes not involve crowds or people in his back.

Not sure... AIBU to bump this up again. Think maybe anybody has an idea...

Sounds like he’s being selfish. Get him to think of things he’d like to do. If he can’t, go out with dc and do what you’d like to do.