To ask about changing a toddler?

[JagerPlease]

DS is 2.5 and a highly energetic, never sits still kind of toddler.

Everytime he needs changing, whether it's a nappy or between clothes and pyjamas, it's a complete nightmare. The sight of a nappy has him running full pelt in the opposite direction, he physically fights it by kicking, flipping himself, launching himself (or the contents of his nappy). Clothes is the same physically battle, gripping sleeves so you can't get them off his arms, pulling the neck back off, kicking his legs etc.

All this isn't so bad in a smaller child, but he's now pretty strong. I've tried explaining why he needs changing, letting him choose clothes, warning in advance that he's going to get changed, getting him to help, but it makes no difference. He's exactly the same for EXW, but apparently a different story with his childminder and my mum, where he's so helpful he holds his legs up while his nappy is changed.

Any advice?!

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I used to have to change DS1 standing up in front of CBeebies because that was the only way he’d stay still long enough for me to clean him. Otherwise we needed one adult holding DS1 more or less still while another adult cleaned his bottom.

Pull ups are easier to get onto a wriggly toddler than nappies are.

Silkei would be horrified to hear my 3y 8m isn't out of nappies yet. I really have tried!

That’s really late to not be potty trained. Perhaps that should be the first option you explore.

2.5 is not really late to be potty trained. In days gone by people potty trained their kids earlier because terry-cloth nappies were a pain in the arse to wash, dry, and store especially in autumn/winter when you would have to try dry them indoors so the quicker you could get your child into knickers/underpants the better as even when they had accidents it was easier to wash and dry a tiny pair of cotton undies than a big piece of terry cloth.

Potty training back then could take months. DM told me that in the 80s the HV gave her an information leaflet that said to start off by sitting me on the potty fully clothed, then progress to sitting me on it after every nappy change, then start letting me go without a nappy for longer and longer periods, then no nappy at all. She said she started not long before my second birthday but that it took months. At the baby and toddler group I went to with youngest DC there were some of the parents there who started potty training just after the babies first birthdays even though the HV who runs the group said that there wasn't much point, they are all still potty training a year later and while they can do some weed//poos in the potty, none their DC is reliably dry yet and fully out of nappies.

Children nowadays are generally potty trained later by past standards but they are reliably dry in a much faster space of time. I've potty trained three DC so far and all were reliably trained within 2 days to a week, their ages ranged from 2.5yo to 3.5yo.

There were times when j wished I could change my toddler but I kept her in the end!

Lol at the comments about wanting to change him for a different one... There are times I'd love to but I feel the other party mind find they're getting the raw end of the deal!