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Witnessed someone shoplifting and didn't flag up to anyone - AIBU?

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Defenbaker · 05/01/2019 23:49

Today I was walking around our local precinct and noticed a young couple shoplifting. The man loitered near the exit door, the woman threw a few things out to him, then left the shop a couple of minutes later with a few more things in her arms. They disappeared around the corner and dumped the stuff in a quiet alley, then the bloke walked over to a charity shop, telling her was going to get a bag. I just happened to be leaving the first shop when I noticed their furtive behaviour, then by coincidence I crossed the precinct amd was thinking of going in the charity shop when this bloke went in there and asked for a carrier bag. I honestly wasn't following them, but as I'm tall they probably wondered if I was a plain clothes cop, because they couldn't seem to avoid me, our paths just kept crossing!

It crossed my mind to do the "right" thing and report this to the shop they had stolen from, but several things stopped me. Firstly, they were stealing food and they both looked a bit dishevelled and scruffy - I thought maybe they were homeless and hungry. The man was very thin and edgy - he looked like he might have a drug problem, so maybe they spent their money on drugs/booze then had nothing for food. So, apart from protecting the shop's profit margins, I couldn't see much point in getting this couple arrested by the police when they're just trying to survive - it would feel like kicking someone when they're down. Secondly, I probably would have got a whole load of abuse and aggro if I'd snitched on them.

Recently there was a report on the news about shoplifting being much more prevalent now than before, and they talked about the way everyone pays more for their shopping because of the cost of shoplifting, so I can see why some people would think it's right to report shoplifters. But when it comes to homeless people stealing to eat, it seems different. Do you agree, or AIBU?

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PossibiliTea · 05/01/2019 23:52

It’s a really tricky one and I think I would agree with you in these circumstances..it’s not worth it.

People will say where’s the line etc but it’s very difficult at the time you are witnessing it to make the “right” move

EmeraldShamrock · 06/01/2019 00:03

I wouldn't get involved. It is why security is hired.
I was waiting on a bus last week and a girl with a buggy was caught with lots of washing powder, house hold stuff, she kicked like a terrified deer, I know the security just from the store. It was awful to see.
Really is not my job to report, if it was a violent crime I witnessed I would.

whatsthepointthen · 06/01/2019 00:18

I wouldnt get involved tbh.

Steamedbadger · 06/01/2019 00:20

I would have told the people running the shop that they stole from.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 06/01/2019 00:45

I'd turn a blind eye as well. Its not my duty to do securities job for them.

POllOcKs · 06/01/2019 00:48

I've spotted and reported shop lifters and the response from the shop owner was that I was a lying trouble maker.All I could do was shrug my shoulders and say it was her loss.I don't know that I'd ever bother again.

MrsTerryPratcett · 06/01/2019 00:48

Weirdly I saw someone get caught today. He looked desperate.

If someone's making off with a wide screen TV, I'd feel differently, but food and household stuff? I just couldn't bring myself to. We're reverting to the Victorian era.

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