Ex not seeing ds on his birthday

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Exh has contact with DS every week same day. DS will be 2 very soon and I assumed ex would want to see him on his birthday, even if for a couple of hours. He informed me this week that he wouldn't be seeing DS on his birthday, as he's at work and will just see him on his usual contact day.

I understand that DS is still only little and won't understand, but for his 1st birthday ex insisted on seeing him for the morning of his birthday.... last year ex didn't have his 'new family' so I can't help but feel that this is how it's going to be now that this is a taste of what's to come going forwards. It's just a shame for my DS I think if it continues - I couldn't even imagine not seeing my child on their birthday

I wouldnt get worked up about it tbh. When he gets older you will probably be glad you get the day to yourself.

I personally feel like for me this would not be a big deal, he’s at work, he’ll see him a different day. Look at the positives, he’s not demanding you rearrange contact to suit him, he’s sticking to his regular day, and now you get to spend DS’s birthday how you like.

As a single parent myself (ex absent) I find not having to share xmas/birthdays a good thing!

All above is true, thank you. I guess maybe I'm just over thinking it. I just thought coming from a man who is always saying how much DS means to him etc he didn't even say he'd come over after work for an hour to see him on the day or anything.

I suppose at least now I get him all to myself!