Exh has had a baby and not told my daughter

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My ex husband and his new partner had a baby in December, they have not told my DD ( his child) about her half sister. I found out via child maintenance telling me my payments have gone down. I've told her today as she has a right to know about the said new baby. She doesn't seem bothered and the only question that she has asked is is he still my father or just the new babies. Aibu to have expected him to tell my daughter that the baby had been born and a little information about her, eg name. He was court ordered to write to her and he hasn't even done that.

You know you are not being unreasonable but if he needs a court to tell him to write to his own daughter yabu unreasonable to expect anything else.

So she's not in contact with her father at all, how would he tell her in that case? Does she see him?

He is ment to write to her after he assaulted me Infront of her. He has been told by court he has to start rebuilding her trust and write to her which he has never done.

Tbh I can see why he didnt tell her. my ex is absent and I wouldnt expect him to tell me/the kids

There was no mention of it before when he was having contact with her either and with the new partner and she would have been pregnant then too

Its outrageous that he may have fought for contact via the courts but ultimately hasn't even bothered.

Its clear that he would have put you and your daughter through the court process due to the power and control that dominates in domestic abuse.

He's let your daughter down but remember this is on him. Its natural for you to be upset for your daughter and its also you who will be supporting and answering her questions.

Its not unreasonable for you to expect him to provide such a huge update.

Sorry.for being thick but why have the payments changed?

They have decreased as he is now responsible for a 2nd child. The more kids he has the less he has to pay for my DD.