To feel sorry for myself

[puddlesplashing]

So, we are 5 days into the new year and I feel like shit. My children are away for the weekend and all I've done is lie in bed. I feel so alone. I feel like things will never be better. I just want to cry. I had been seeing someone who struggles with mental health and the way they sometimes are (through no fault of their own) is starting to effect me. E.g. not hearing from them, cancelling plans. Sorry for the rant. Just feeling sorry for myself. I really hoped this year would be my year so to speak. Thanks if you've read this.

I get like this. For me doing something practical can help lift the feeling. Put some washing on, have a shower - use any nice Christmas smellies, tidy up a room, eat my favourite meal, watch favourite movie.

Tiny steps

Ahh op. I'm so sorry you're going through this op this. I feel like this when my son is at his dad's. Like I have no reason to get out of bed.

Please consider ending this relationship. He is not good for you. I know how difficult it is to end a relationship no matter how shit because it's better than no relationship. But it's dragging you down.

Can you make plans to keep yourself busy while dc are away? I always feel worse when I have nothing to do and spend the day at home. Could you get out for a bit, even if it's just local shops?

What's your situation? Do you have family or friends nearby? Do you work?

Sending you hugs and strength xx

So sorry you're feeling this way Puddle. Agree with Books, when I lived alone and spent a lot of time lonely I used to divide my day up into chunks because otherwise it just felt so long and miserable. Half an hour for a bath, an hour to cook dinner, a walk into town for a coffee with a magazine or a film, two hours. It just made things feel more bearable.

There's still plenty of time for 2019 to be your year. In the meantime, be gentle on yourself.

I have a few family and friends locally and yes I work. I just don't see things getting better. I always let myself get attached to quickly (not on purpose) and end up hurt. I know it's not it's not their fault but it's getting me down now. I'm worried I'll never settle down again.

I know I should get my ass up get showered and have a tidy round.

Thankyou for the kind words. X

Please make a list of whatever feels manageable today and will make you feel happier and come back on here and let us know how you got on?

Pp has made an excellent point that this can still be your year. It's only just begun xx

I guess hearing from the person I was seeing would instantly perk me up. But I can't allow someone else to be in control of my happiness.

Will try and get up and showered and dressed.

I just hate feeling like this. I want nothing more than to settle down with someone and be happy in life. It's never going to happen though.

I'm sorry you are feeling so down. Sometimes doing little things for yourself and building on them reminds you that you don't need someone else to make you feel 'worthy'
Maybe treat yourself to a walk to shops, get a magasine, wine and nice bubble bath and have a lovely evening in. Then tomorrow choose something else to do just for you..after all you're worth it

Its not that I don't feel worthy. I feel alone and unlovable. And this keeps happening.

Well I'm showered and dressed. No idea what to do now. Maybe a McDonald's.

Stick headphones on and go for a long walk. It will distract you and the music and exercise will help
And dump the loser you are seeing. He is no good for your MH.

I don't think he is doing it on purpose I think it's how he's feeling but it's fucking me up.

What should I say to them?

Tell him you need to break off to take care of yourself .

I was in a good place, when we met. And now I'm so down.

I think that last comment speaks volumes op.
I think you need to take time out for yourself and remember who you were before this relationship.
To be fair though, occasionally if I have the day off (mostly in the winter) I can stay in my pjs all day and do fuck all. The trick is not to feel guilty about it, sometimes I just need a rest from life!

I get too attached too easily I think. I also have a history of depression.