perimenopause and limerence

[pyjamama]

is this a thing? i think i'm going through it at the moment, and it's hell :-( it's like i've been possessed. i'm married, and i need to work on it i know but i just can't get this person out of my head. i keep trying to go cold turkey but fail . has anyone had experience of this ?

i meant specifically when going through menopause, i'm also on the limerence board

There's a limerence board on here?

Is there link where is it.

I think it's probably just a natural age thing

Of course, it's possible for hormones to have heighten these emotions and your reactions to them.
It's likely best to just accept these feelings (rather than fighting them) whilst putting as much distance and non-contact between you and the person you feel for.

@Willbeatjanuaryblues there is a board but I don't know how to link sorry ...
@Lifeisabeach09 yes very true , I am going to do that , (well try anyway )

On Here on mumsnet. can you tell me which section it's in please

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3408753-Limerence-and-it-coming-to-an-end

@Willbeatjanuaryblues hope that worked

Just searched for limerence on Mumsnet and saw this. I'm married, late 40s, we get on but little sex although I would like more. He's married to his job and I don't see much of him. We've had conversations about it but nothing ever seems to change. I'm strongly attracted to a single man at a place I volunteer.

Well he has told me he is single. I don't see him much as we work in different areas but god when I see him I imagine all sorts of 'scenarios'. I am really frustrated with the whole situation. How do you move on from this. I don't want an affair as I don't want to rock our DC's lives. I am putting into place getting back into my pre-DC career after taking low paid jobs that fitted around school and am wondering if all I am feeling is boredom. So maybe when I get back into work I love this crush will die a death. Any advice is welcome.

Just realised this was not in Relationships board. Oh well, here goes AIBU....