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To not want the TV on in the bedroom

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LuckyRainbow777 · 05/01/2019 13:07

Hi there, first time poster here!

AIBU in not wanting the TV on in the bedroom when I am putting DD to sleep/ when DD is sleeping, and when I'm trying to sleep? My DH likes it on in the evenings and doesn't want to budge on this but it lets out so much light and I'd rather not have any screens on in the bedroom at bedtime.

I find it really disturbing myself while I'm trying to sleep and am just assuming that it'll also affect DDs sleep. I'm not sure if I'm being over the top and should just let it go, or whether I have a valid point!

Thanks guys

OP posts:
ThroughThickAndThin01 · 05/01/2019 13:09

You have a valid point.

I trialled it as dh really wanted it. I absolutely hated it and it would have ended in divorce.

Now he watches stuff on his iPad in bed with headphones.

Don’t do it OP.

Sparklingbrook · 05/01/2019 13:19

We often have the TV on in the bedroom but neither DH or I have any trouble sleeping if the other one is watching.

If you don't like it then it's not fair. How old is DD?

MajesticWhine · 05/01/2019 13:22

I have a tv in my bedroom but I would not switch it on if a child was sleeping in the room.

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LuckyRainbow777 · 05/01/2019 13:30

@sparklingbrook she's only a few months old. When she wakes for feeds she tries to turn and stare at the screen, I have to position her away from it as I'm worried she'll want to stay up!

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Sparklingbrook · 05/01/2019 13:32

At that age it's absolutely fair enough Lucky. Feeding the baby should be calm and ideally dark in order for them to fall back to sleep. TV would be a huge distraction and as you say may make the baby think it' awake time.

Pachyderm1 · 05/01/2019 13:33

I really ate TVs in bedrooms. YANBU this would drive me mad!

Pachyderm1 · 05/01/2019 13:33

*hate!

BlueJag · 05/01/2019 17:53

We've never had a tv in the bedroom. I agree with you.

Joinourclub · 05/01/2019 17:54

I hate the thought of a telly in the bedroom.

Bluelady · 05/01/2019 17:55

When we first moved in together I refused to have a TV in the bedroom. We still haven't got one.

Singlenotsingle · 05/01/2019 17:58

We've got one but we haven't got any babies that need feeding!

MitziK · 05/01/2019 18:04

YANBU.

It's a fucking dealbreaker for me. You want to have a TV in the bedroom? Well, find somebody else to live with then.

This is not an overexaggeration, either - I have enough trouble with sleep anyway (always have done), but when my first ex insisted upon it, not only was the fucking thing on until I passed out from exhaustion at about 2am, it went back on again at 6 for Breakfast TV, to the extent that I was hallucinating on the bus on the way to work. At once point, I was convinced there was a fucking pigeon sitting at the desk next to me. When we split up, he couldn't believe that I told him to take the TV rather than him having to demand it.

I spent the next six weeks essentially in bed, catching up on about two years' worth of lost sleep.

The OH asked if it would be something I'd like him to buy when he first moved in. I politely declined.

Bluewidow · 05/01/2019 18:09

Bedrooms are for other things not watching tv 😉

Sparklingbrook · 05/01/2019 18:26

Yep bedrooms are for ironing, folding laundry, putting make up on and drying hair. While watching TV.

But not when people are trying to sleep or get small babies into a routine.

Flyingfish2019 · 05/01/2019 18:27

YANNU to my mind.

Flyingfish2019 · 05/01/2019 18:27

*YANBU

minisoksmakehardwork · 05/01/2019 18:34

How 'few months' old is baby - is she likely to be going into her own room anytime soon as that would stop her trying to watch tv.

We do have a tv in our room as dh struggles to sleep. I am a good sleeper and he respects my request if I ask him to turn it down/off.

But as it clearly impacts you, I don't think ywbu to ask him to watch tv downstairs. Would you object to him listening to music or reading a book by lamp instead if he wants you to spend that time together?

Aquamarine1029 · 05/01/2019 18:45

YANBU. At all. My husband and I have a tv in our bedroom, but we both enjoy it. We love to cuddle and watch a movie with a glass of wine. However, we always go to sleep at the same time and the tv is off for the night. It would bother me if it were on and I was trying to sleep.

Fairylea · 05/01/2019 18:46

We have a no Tv in bedrooms rule.
Can’t he watch tv downstairs / in the living area?!

lboogy · 05/01/2019 20:45

Ynbu. I don't understand having tv in the bedroom. It can make you very lazy

Sparklingbrook · 05/01/2019 20:57

If watching TV on a Sunday morning in bed with a cup of tea makes me lazy then so be it. I love it.

But I have teenagers now so that's my time.

Burlea · 05/01/2019 21:02

We've had a TV I our bedroom for 3 years. We discussed this the other day and realised it had only been turned on approximately 5 times. Thankfully we won it in a raffle.

formerbabe · 05/01/2019 21:04

Wow, I never knew people felt so strongly about this. We love having a tv in the bedroom. I agree if your baby is sleeping in there, it's best not to have it on though.

tryinganewname · 05/01/2019 21:08

When we moved house I refused to allow a TV in the bedroom because DH took the absolute piss with it but if it had still been in there, absolutely no way would it have been on with DD in the room.

Screens before bed and during sleep are prolific for ruining sleep. Phones don't count.

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