To go out and flirt with other men?

[derter]

I'm expecting backlash on this but at least it'll open my eyes...

In a LTR with 1 DC. Things haven't been great with DP and I've felt 'trapped' for a while. I love my DP and love my family unit when it's good. He wants to work on our relationship and I'm still unsure of whether I want to. Neither of us treat each other particularly well anymore and I feel suffocated at the minute as he lets out his jealousy issues so often.
I'm going out tonight and all I want is just to have some proper fun and not feel like life is so serious with a family and a LTR and relationship problems for once (I know I chose it but sometimes it feels overwhelming!) He's an overly jealous person so I barely even have a male friend - but would it be so bad to flirt and have a laugh with other guys when I'm out tonight? Or if I'm feeling like this should I just grow some balls and break off the relationship? Or am I just being plain childish?

I suppose it depends on what you mean by 'flirting', because it seems to mean different things to different people.

Other than that, there's absolutely nothing wrong with having a chat and a laugh with the opposite sex.

Your relationship is a separate matter though and only you know whether staying in it, is going to benefit you or not.

YABU. Break off your horrible relationship and then you can meet nice men guilt free.

If a man were posting, the outrage would be loud and immediate. If your actions would upset/devastate your partner, don't do it.

So you want a bit of fun and want to flirt with other men? How about you finish with your partner so he can be with someone that respects him.

''I'm expecting backlash on this but at least it'll open my eyes... ''

Don't trash your life, act like an adult. Take responsibility for your actions instead of provoking a response and dealing with the fallout.

So you want to go out and flirt with men because that would be a great thing to do with an allegedly jealous partner?

Can't possibly imagine why he may be jealous if that's your idea of escaping the seriousness of life and your relationsgip

To make a plan in advance which you know would upset your partner whilst you're in a relationship which is already rocky/unstable/not as happy as it should be seems to me a very goady plan.

A LOT of partners, probably most (even the secure, non-jealous ones) would be very unhappy if they knew this is what their OH was planning.

Are you trying to manipulate a situation where he ends things with you? Because that's what it reads like to me.

I think you both need to think about how you all move forward to make a situation where you're ALL happier especially including your DC, who really should be top of everyone's priority list; who risks being the most hurt and who is least to blame for any part of your situation

If you're not sure whether you want to continue with dp, I'd suggest relationship counselling, I found it very good.

Though I couldn't be with someone who was very jealous and dictated my friendships, it would feel controlling.

Understandable to want escapism but probably better to face up to reality. You'll be ok alone, don't stay in a bad relationship out of fear

Assuming you would be ok with your DP doing the same then go right ahead. Alternatively you could grab some self respect and talk to him to try to resolve the issues you both have. If it's not salvageable then leave him, take some alone time to discover where you're at and then go flirt to your heart's content.

Do it OP. It might give you the confidence to walk away at home once and for all.

DH wont change. He doesnt want to 'work' on anything. He just doesn't want you to go elsewhere.

If you feel the need to flirt with other men, you shouldn't be in a relationship.

You're obviously missing something at home but you're setting out to do something that would really hurt him. You say he has jealousy issues and I'm not surprised it this is how you behave. Poor guy, if things aren't right try and fix it (councilling?) Or leave but don't deliberately hurt him