To think most weddings are much the same?

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I really like going to weddings if the couple are clearly in love. But people spend so much time planing a wedding when really most weddings are more or less the same. Yes the venue differs, as does the quality of food and drink, but most weddings are much the same.

Well, it’s a wedding. There’s going to be a pretty common theme

It’s like saying ‘most Christmasses are the same’ or ‘most bar mitzvah’s are much the same’

What are you trying to say here? Weird thread.

Funerals are much the same as well, who would have thought

Okay I have not expressed myself well I think.
I was just thinking about the mainly brides who spend a lot of time planning to make their wedding unique.

I agree op. My two nephews got married in the same year, they had venues at different ends of the country, different entertainment, different menus etc but I still can't remember which wedding was which. And I know they both spent a lot of time and money trying to organise a unique day.

Do they though? You’re essentially talking about planning a big party if you’re referring to the reception. Different tastes come out in that. I don’t like hog roast or fruit cake or discos for example, doesn’t mean I thinkI’m ‘unique’ for having canapés and a sponge cake and a jazz band.

Also, why just brides? Do grooms not plan their weddings too?

I think I know what you mean, OP.

Most weddings where I'm from are pretty standard- church service before trekking to a fairly rural hotel ~20 miles away where there's an inoffensive 3 course meal, followed by speeches, followed by a disco.

I don't blame couples who pick that- hotels normally offer packages which seem better value and take care of everything for you, which can be a massive help if you don't have the time or inclination to pick chair covers or design table centre pieces yourself. The pay off can be that it doesn't feel very unique to the couple, but they're still going to be as married as anyone who did the whole DIY Custom wedding, and probably saved themselves a lot of hassle.

There's fashions for wedding like anything as well- as someone who got married in 2016 and had navy bridesmaids dresses and "rustic" everything (I blame Pinterest)

Not true for me. Although I only go to one about once every 2 yrs.

Some unique features: bride wore black, or Indian brides in classic white dresses marrying non-Indian men in Indian costume. Punjabi sword display, Indian dancing, Father of the bride presiding over ceremonies. Not the wedding march for the bride. Open bar before wedding. Freezing tent and no children except one babe in arms. Who my toddlers danced with :).