DP & I have been together 3 years & have lived together for 18 months. We moved to a completely new area half way between our old locations. He previously lived east & I lived west so we have effectively met in the middle.
I have older children 19 & 17. The 19 yo is at uni. The 17 yo lived with his Dad in my original town.
DPs DCs are younger 18 & 15.
It’s approx an hours drive for both of us although his journey can be 1.5 hrs depending on traffic whereas I can get the train & cut my journey to 45mins).
The town we live in is a town neither of us had visited- it was chosen for accessibility to our respective home towns.
At 50 it’s hard starting again but I have gradually made a few friends & feel a bit of a community.
A few weeks ago my DC (17) moved closer to DPs DCs location so I suggested that we move much closer to his DCs location to make his journey easier & enable him to meet his DC every few days (he misses them naturally) instead of 2x a week & with us EOW. I wouldn’t need to go in the opposite direction so made sense.
In the last few days my DS has said he is moving back to our original hometown.
DP has his heart set on moving back but obviously I don’t want to be doing a 2 hour journey. Also he wants to move to his original location where all his friends etc are .
I can’t think of anything worse than starting again, for the 2nd time, at 50. In his mind he’s already gone. I feel like a cow for saying I don’t want to go anymore but feel my DCs are equally important as his despite one of his being younger.