Done as a separate post for clarity.
Op has 3 DC, earns £26k pa, lives in central London (I've just thought - does this mean op's partner works in govt?), has a partner working full time who earns enough that their income is such they're not eligible for benefits (can an mn maths whizz work out what that would be minumum? I'm going to try with some playing about on calculators as this info is ridiculously not easy to access)
Based on what I was able to roughly work out and op's info.
3 bed flat central London ave rent £2250
Childcare £1000
Council tax seems to be around £500 a year? That seems cheap!
Ok from playing around on entitled to calculator placing youngest child as old enough to not be affected by 2 child limit, I hit £75,000 for op's partners salary (starting at 40,000 and increasing in 5k increments) until I reached a point they wouldn't be eligible for UC.
Mps salary £77,379 - just for info.
That's just a rough idea.
So with a take home income of
£1755 per month for op
£4293 per month for their partner
= £6048 pcm in
- £ 208.43 child benefit (which I'm surprised they'd still be eligible for)
= 6256.43 pcm total income
Estimated outgoings of
£2250 rent
£500 council tax
£1000 childcare
£400 travel costs based on London 7 day travel card age cost
£150 gas & elec apparently ave costs for 3 bed
£40 water
£12.37 tv licence
£650 groceries (ave based on variety of sources)
£25 Internet
£300 clothes & shoes (based on ons percentage)
I think that's all the basic necessities covered.
= £5327.37
Leaving a remainder of £929.06.
"We bring in a total of 40k a year" then how are you not eligible for anything?
Your partner only earns £14k pa?!
Based on that you'd be eligible for child tax credits, child benefit and possibly even housing benefit.
Who told you that you weren't eligible?
I don't know what to believe regarding your finances to be honest.
"Would anyone like to remind me, just for fun, what a member of the House of Lords gets as a daily expenses figure? How is it funded?" Excellent question - they can claim up to £305 A DAY!