I'm in a bit of a conundrum split 6years divorced for 4 I stayed in the marital home paying the full mortgage for the last 6 years. New partner moved in 2 yrs ago with my (with ex) 2 children. House was in major negative equity when he left so divorced without it being sorted I couldn't bear to be married to him any longer! I am now in a position to pay off the mortgage in full and there may be a couple of grand equity up to max 10k. This is because I have be paying the mortgage and the market has gone up to the just under the value of the mortgage when he left. I am loathed to hand over 50% to him of whatever it is he has actively fought to pay the minimum CM he possibly can and only provides the basics when kids are with him (clothes, bus fare, school trips etc all covered by me) due to illness I wouldn't be able work in the same capacity as before so trying to get my ducks in a row. Everything is a battle and I know a solicitor will need to be seen as he will fight for every single penny and tell any lie to get it (divorce was super crazy fun!!) I have the money available to go but need a wee handhold to be strong as my kids deserve it they've been through so much the last while with me being I'll. The thought of going through all the solicitor letters and court process is making me think I should Chuck cash at him and run but reality is my eldest should be going to uni next year and has already been told it up to mum to sort it out 😣 sorry long read but I'm really lost how to approach it