To think DP is exerting his control?

[jeroma]

I own our home, only my name is on the lease. But DP has bought our TV, my car and my computer.
Every time we have an argument at the minute, he always throws a comment on about how if we break up, he will be taking TV, car, computer.
We have a child together and I think it's really nasty of him to happily buy me this stuff and then use it over me. I would never have the money to buy this stuff myself so would be left with nothing but stress about how to replace it.
I worry that if we broke up and I was to move on with someone else, he would be petty enough to actually take it all and leave me without.
Is this unreasonable of him? Or reasonable if he's bought it?

It's be shitty of him but legally he'd be entitled to take what he bought.

No he wouldn't not if he gifted them.

get rid OP, is this spiteful man honestly how you want to live the rest of your life?

Do you tell him that you'll kick him out and move a new man in?

I wouldn't be surprised if he thought you were exerting control over him regarding the house and he's doing the same with you with the material things.

Look, chuck this prick out and watch telly on your phone for a bit while you source a cheap second hand one. He will get worse, not better. He doesn't respect you, he wants you to 'know your place' - and the fact that you own the house while he has the penis is going to make him determined to break you down until you submit to him. Don't put up with it. He's worthless.

Just break up with him and let him take the car and whatever else. You will be better off.

What’s happening is because he doesn’t co-own the house and he has no income, he feels inferior to you. So he needs to remind you that he (Johnny Bigballs) bought the car and whatnot. This mentality is not a good sign.

Why are you worrying about being with someone else? I would think that your current fuckwit was enough to turn you celibate.

AF is FEISTY today!
OP, he sounds lovely. I think you should marry him.

If he threatens this after every argument I think you may have more to worry about. It sounds like he's being very verbally abusive to you.
As others have said if he has given you gifts then they are yours. How can he take the car if he can't drive.
In your shoes as it's your house I'd chuck him out and find myself a partner who likes me.

There's a charming old MN saying -"Off you fuck then, cunty chops." Id have it embroidered on a sampler and hang it over his bed. Cocklodger par excellence.

Is he on the tenancy? If not, tell him he'll be out the door and you'll help him pack next time he threatens arsehole behaviour. Can he not work weekends at least? If the car is in your name, he cannot take it. Are you arguing a lot? Sounds a bit shit, tbh.

Does he pay anything for the child ? As you are not married. You can buy a small flat screen TV for £100 or get one off Freecycle/Facebook. You can get a car for 1K. Who pays for tax, insurance on the car ? You can watch videos on the PC instead of the TV. Who cares about the stuff, they can be replaced and so can he !