Posted for Traffic: How do you handle the Nannycam, if you have one?

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Hi, need some advice from mums and dads that have a nannycam installed.

We installed one, and of course the nanny knows. I love our nanny and I trust her, however husband wanted to have nannycam as a deterrent also.

He checks it regularly, but is completely besides himself when he sees little one cry and not being picked up immediately (nanny assured him and comforts him in crib but definitely tries to teach him to form healthy sleeping habits, meaning that she will try to avoid picking him up all the time).

I have the nanny cam on my phone but am too chicken to look.
I kindof think that it is to be expected that he will cry more with nanny than with me, and that once i start looking, it will erode my trust in her. Because I'm the mum, my instinct is to run over there and pick up and coddle baby, but this is why baby never slept more than 30min with me.

I refuse to address things husband saw on cam with the nanny and tell him this is a problem he created for himself and he needs to deal with it and not roll it over to me.

But really both of us are chickens.

Do any of you have a healthier way to use the nannycam?
Any tips on how to handle if there is something you see but not like (but its not a huge deal iykwim)?
How do you protect the trust between nanny and mommy?

Voices of reason welcome, by people that own a nannycam please (as i won't uninstall it)

Are you American? And are you living in the States or the UK? I think this is relevant as there is a massive cultural difference here WRT norms and expectations. Nanny cams aren't common in the UK.

I worked as a nanny in a home with a nanny cam. They didn't routinely watch it; they just felt happier that they had it if they needed it, i think.

It always made me a bit uncomfortable because it suggested a lack of trust and although I can appreciate that they were looking after their children; it seemed to upset them to watch him cry and they didn't need to! He was never crying for long. If they'd started questioning me on things they'd saw, I'd have left. The nanny/parent relationship would have been ruined at that point.

Good grief I’m kind of glad I can’t afford a nanny. You watch her while she is working?? It’s just weird. If you don’t trust her then get rid and either you or your husband stay and home with the baby instead. I sent mine to nursery while I worked, didn’t spy on them. My kids were well cared for.