Use the downstairs loo

[MidnightLoo]

Hi all

Long time lurker, first time poster.

It’s a bit of a silly one. DH and I have one DD ( aged 13months ). She is quite a good sleeper but occasionally will wake herself up in the night. She is great at self-settling a lot of the time but sometimes needs a little cuddle to go back off. We usually give her a few minutes before one of us goes in to see if it’s just a moan or if she needs a bit more.

Often if she wakes up in the night DH will get up to go to the bathroom, which shares a wall with her bedroom, and I am sure the sounds of him getting up, going, flushing and then walking back across a slightly creaky hall make her realise that one of us is right there and then she wakes up properly looking for cuddles and crying.

If she wakes earlier in the evening when we are downstairs she’ll have a little moan but mostly goes back to sleep on her own.

WIBU to ask my husband to use the downstairs loo if he needs to go when she is stirring in the night to try and avoid waking her up more?

Would he still creak across the landing and downstairs though? Tell him not to flush whichever loo he uses during the night tbf!

If you keep things ultra quiet she will never get the hang of self settling when there is a little noise
If he is just having a quick pee just tell him not to flush.

I think Yab a little u. Kids need to get used to noises when they are sleeping otherwise you'll be posting here in five years time that they can't sleep

Thanks everyone.

I think the no flushing thing is a good idea and a bit of a compromise and better than making DH trek downstairs for a quick wee. I'll suggest that.

We don't sneak around too much at night, it's more when she has woken and is trying to self settle, she'll hear one of us and is all about cuddle time (who wouldn't be). Quite tough at 1am though.

Thanks again.