To ask for serious help regarding 14 month old sleep

[Abneyandteal19]

DS2 is 14 months, doing well developmentally, walking babbling away happy content in daytime.

Goes to sleep on bottle around 7pm most night without fuss. However consistently wakes up between 2/3am screaming hysterically, we feed him, rock him, bringing him in with us (shared room with DS1 aged 3) but he is just so angry!! He is enormous 99.6 centile and I am struggling to hold him when he is raging and throwing his head etc, have also tried Calpol in case of teething etc but NOTHING works- please help!!! It usually takes about 2.5 hours to get him back to sleep.

I cannot cope with the disturbed sleep, it messes up everyone's daily routine, feel like I'm a rubbish mum to DS1 as when DS2 naps in daytime I'm so exhausted I end up giving DS1 TV time which makes me feel rubbish. Also work PT 12 hr days so doing a crap job there too- DH shares nights with me but neither of us can sleep when he's hysterical!!

Please no suggestions of gradual retreat as I literally cannot see how this would work it would just be me sat at some point int he room while he screams inconsolably as this is what happens when I put him in the cot alone in the night in any state of sleepiness/awake.

Please help I am losing the plot...

Is it in your budget to hire a sleep consultant? We did and she suggested things that would have never occurred to us. Our DS went from being a notoriously terrible sleeper to the envy of my parents group.

Can you put the baby in his own room?

Is he definitely waking up or is it a night terror? Mine had the latter occasionally and there is absolutely nothing you could do, literally charging around screaming shouting and hitting out. All while actually asleep, even though eyes open. Only thing that works with mine is making sure they are safe and guiding them back into bed once over. The first few times it happened i didn't realise and woke them up (thought they were awake) and took hours to get back off again. Gp said v normal but if happened regularly to go back.

Do you have a gro egg to monitor the temp? DD would scream hysterically in her sleep in the middle of the night . We spoke to a sleep consultant online and they suggested that as 3am is the coldest part of the night she might be getting chilly. Our gro egg was always over 18oc but we noticed that she prefers it over 19oc with a thicker gro bag. It's not happened since.

www.babysleepscience.com/single-post/2014/09/09/The-“Split”-Night-Why-some-babies-are-awake-for-hours-in-the-middle-of-the-night-and-how-to-change-it?amp=true Could this be it?