to get married without telling anyone except mum and dads

[Whdidjbehs71]

just the above really...

Have our wedding booked for summer next year in our home town. Both sides of the family have tension, people not speaking to one another, etc and I just can’t be bothered with the hassle on the day

AIBU to go somewhere at the end of the year and get married just us, our mum and dads, my brother and our kids and niece/nephew

My DP said his mum won’t be happy as her sisters won’t be able to come but u can’t please everyone?!

Perfect

We eloped last year and didn’t tell a soul what we were planning. Best decision ever. I’d much rather seek forgiveness than permission, although all family and friends were genuinely delighted when we came home and told them. Go for it!

We did it, told our parents only, flew to Fiji and got married. On the day we flew out we sent invitations to everyone advising them we were getting married and we were having a party to celebrate when we got back. Not a single person complained and the party was a blast, so laid back and not formal. Best decision we ever made, no fighting, no hassles and a perfect day :)

We’re doing this in a few months. Small ceremony, both sets of parents, and maybe a couple of close friends. If other people have a big wedding because that’s what they want, you can have a small wedding that you want

Thing is I would love a big wedding.. as that’s what I’ve booked. But with everything that’s been going on, I feel id be on edge the whole day worrying incase someone says something.

I’m hoping the hotel will still let me keep my date and just have a party instead of the wedding, fingers crossed!

We did it, sort of. We planned not to tell anyone and only take our mums there (both divorced) as witnesses and surprise them on the day. We ended up telling everyone a few days before and explained our reasons (mostly for the same reasons as you but we told them a few of the other reasons so no one was too upset). My family was fine about it but my MIL and BIL were very angry about it. It was awful.

We couldn’t have had everyone there though because of such terrible family conflicts. It’s a shame but we had a good day, and MIL did come along.

Our fathers were both ok with the arrangement, mine more than DH’s but I don’t see mine they often anyway.