DP and I have been together 3 years. We don't live together, we both own our own house, I bought mine in November finally, after I got divorced from a really physically abusive marriage 4 years ago and DP knows I don't want to live with a man again and I am doing this to protect myself and DC's, we are both very happy with the situation. He is great.
He has been here since Boxing day as we both have time off. The problem is he keeps doing DIY for me and it's driving me a bit mad. He does a job related very closely to DIY and is very good at it BUT he won't stop! He's painted my bathroom, cleared out and arranged my understairs storage, put up loads of pictures for me, put up towel rails and loo holders etc and generally I've been happy and grateful. BUT he just put up a fire blanket in my new kitchen. It's right next to my sink and kitchen window, on the boxed in bit over my boiler. He's drilled into the wood. I know it's very safe but it looks so ugly! And you will be able to see it from the outside.
I have an operation tomorrow, he's dropping me off at the hospital at 8am and is collecting me after the op. I'm DREADING what 'helpful' DIY he's going to have done in the meantime.
AIBU? I know I should be grateful but I can hear him drilling in the downstairs loo and I have no idea what he is doing?! I need to communicate to him that I want him to just wait until I've asked him to do stuff. And not put up weird fire blankets where I think it looks shit?! I am ungrateful aren't I? People pay for this stuff doing but it's doing my head in that he's just taking it upon himself to do it!