Basically my brother and family are home for Xmas and they were due to come to DS's Xmas play a few weeks ago. I misread the note (working full time, just finished kitchen extension and life being busy). So I messaged them at 9.50am to say the play was at 11am (not 11.30am) and did any one want a lift (bearing in mind they are usually up at 7am). Turns out brother and SIL were hungover because they'd been to my sisters house the night before. So it was a bit of a rush but they were fine.
Then my mother wades in with a text saying good job I messaged them or they would have turned up when it was over. I replied and said that's why I sent you a message to let you know the time in advance. Her response was 'whatever!'
She timed this exchange on the day the whole family was going away for the weekend so for the weekend away I avoided interacting with her.
I knew she would try and get H on her side and I was right as she messaged him on Thursday saying she was concerned for my mental health, that my reaction was OTT and I was acting irrationally. She also said I'd stopped communicating with people and I was cold to everyone on the family weekend away.
Now that weekend she was the only one I avoided, I went shopping with SIL etc and had a night out on Fri night with both my siblings and in-laws. H did stick up for me and say there is nothing wrong with my mental health. He suggested they met up as he is disgusted with her but she refused.
H put pressure on me to go to their house before Xmas to smooth things over as everyone is planned to come to ours Xmas Day and he was worried she was starting a smear campaign against me. So I called over with the kids to give them their Xmas card and she stayed in the other room the whole time while I spoke with brother and SIL.
Myself and H split up for a short time earlier on in the year and she took his side. When I told her there had been sporadic DV over the yrs her response was it couldn't be that bad or I wouldn't leave the kids with him. When things weren't going well she would get him on side so they were all against me.
I was put under immense pressure to give things another go with H (My father stopped talking to me, my mother and sister fell out with me). Ironically we are getting on better now but he can see through her and her behaviour disgusts him.
My daughter was also assessed and diagnosed with dyspraxia last yr and she was totally against the assessment saying that there was nothing wrong with her and it was down to her bad start in life (myself and H weren't getting on at the time). And it's not lack of awareness on her part, she had worked in the disability sector for 15yrs.
H can't figure out why she would act like this to me. It is a 6 month cycle with her and I can predict it now at this stage. I just want to walk away, I've had enough