Can I ask you your opinion on this piece of music for a funeral?

[Destinysdaughter]

My dad’s funeral is next week and we’ve chosen music for the entrance and edit. However I met with the Chaplain today and he asked me what piece we wanted for the reflection in the middle of the service. For context, I’m the youngest of 3 older sisters who do not trust my opinion on anything. However, I’m the one living in the home town where my dad will he buried, after having been his carer for many years, and I think this is a beautiful piece of music.

I’d really appreciate people’s feedback as to whether they think this would be appropriate, it’s not a classical piece as the rest of the music is, and my sisters won’t have heard it before, but I do love it...

m.youtube.com/watch?v=s5c7anjB6AY&start_radio=1&list=RDs5c7anjB6AY

m.youtube.com/watch?v=s5c7anjB6AY&start_radio=1&list=RDs5c7anjB6AY

I think that is beautiful.

I'm so very sorry for your loss x

It's beautiful and take care. X

Haven't listened to the whole thing but I think it would be good be, though perhaps a little on the long side? I have recently organised a funeral and nearly 7 minutes is a long time to sit in quiet reflection, though the funeral director should be able to fade the track out earlier if required.

Does the music have personal meaning for you and your dad? It's incredibly hard to choose a suitable piece, but don't be afraid to pick something a little different if you feel it reflects your dad - we chose the Rolling Stones, Jerry Garcia and a Faithless song for a guy in his 60s, and our minister said he would personally choose a Pink Floyd song for his own funeral.

It’s a lovely piece of music, definitely appropriate for a funeral.

I’m sorry for your loss OP.

Thanks for the responses. My dad is 86 and hated any modern music! He’d had dementia for 10 years and so we’d never been able to have any conversations about what music he’d like to have at his funeral. I don’t think they’d play the whole piece, in fact my sisters didn’t even want a reflection piece, but today, talking to the Chaplain, it seemed like it was expected. I asked him for his opinion but he didn’t have any suggestions so I just went with something that I liked.

So sorry for your loss OP.

If you love the piece remember that you'll never be able to listen to it again without thinking of the funeral.

DH chose a song he loved for his dad's funeral and hasn't been able to listen to it since.

Have you checked out the meaning of the lyrics?? I always think you should never use something in a different language without doing so. There's a translation here:
www.musixmatch.com/lyrics/Jan-Garbarek-The-Hilliard-Ensemble/Parce-Mihi-Domine
Happy with that? I know this piece from classic fm, but never checked out the Latin before.

(Funeral celebrant here) A reflection piece isn't compulsory, but it can work well; people can have a bit of a cry and/or time to contemplate without missing any of the eulogy. And you can have anything you want or which seems appropriate, really. (A mate of mine had Surfin' Bird played at his funeral). I agree that seven minutes is a bit long, but the celebrant/funeral director can get the music faded out after about 3 minutes.