To feel hurt

[aunrey]

It's my birthday today, and neither of my two older brothers have text or called
To say happy birthday.

For context, I'm 37 and they are late 40s. This has happened before, but it didn't bother me so much. But this year we lost our mom and so it's just them and my dad left as close family. I have had texts cards and presents from all my in laws, and texts from lots of friends.

I don't think it's intentional. We aren't close but get on well and they would be there for me if I needed them which is important.
I think they have forgotten. But it still hurts this year.

I’m sorry you are hurt. Bizarrely it’s my birthday today, and you made me realise I haven’t heard from my brothers either. Other people have sent you messages and are thinking of you with love, try and focus on them and don’t let it spoil your day. Happy birthday to us both!

Aww, try not to feel hurt if they are great guys otherwise. It won't be that they thought of your birthday and decided not to bother, it's that they didn't remember and didn't realise it would be important to you.
I say this as someone who is not good at remembering special dates.

I'm 47. I don't think my brother has wished me a happy birthday since he went to uni when I was 16.

It has never occurred to me to think it's in any way an issue.

Ditto MrsDanny except I am quite a bit older and it's my sister. Sounds completely normal to me.

Happy birthday OP.

My 2 sister's forget almost every year and i dont remember my brother ever doing it.

I know it hurts, you want them to think of you but honestly it hurts less once you stop expecting it. Xx

I got a facebook wall from my brother this year. I was offended by this, especially as he made a point to my parents that he would take my card to their house - which he didnt. But not alot I can do about it really

I’m not saying it’s acceptable, but men are just fucking useless. They just do not think like women with regards to making these special.

Could it be because you lost your mum? Some people don't send cards following a bereavement.
Sorry for you loss and Happy Birthday x