My step sister has just told me that she plans to send a letter to a girl that she used to be really good friends with (known each other since primary school / each other’s bridesmaids / lived together for a bit / had kids at same time) to tell her how much she’s hurt her and try and get some closure and answers after their relationship went bad. I think it’s a waste of her energy and she risks being hurt even more. I’d appreciate knowing if it’s ever a good idea because I do want her to feel better.
(To avoid drip feeding - This girl has a history of treating my sister - and other people - badly and refusing to talk about what’s happened. She strung her along for years, always making her feel like she wasn’t good enough and finally she just dumped my SS and refused to acknowledge that she was behaving badly. From the outside it played out almost like an abusive relationship with my lovely loyal step sister always prepared to put up with crap and make excuses for her. No one can understand why she stayed friends with her! Because this girl never actually told SS that she didn’t want to be friends any more she’s tourtured herself for a long time trying to work out what she did. The reality is that she did nothing - this girl is just an insecure cow!)
Is there any chance that sending a letter will make her feel better, or should she keep well away?!