swearing in song lyrics and DCs

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Would you let your young children listen to songs that have swearing in them?

DH is taking a, in my view, puritanical line on only playing songs with clean lyrics in the house. This is effectivly banning my entire music collection from the playlist.

AIBU to think that they hear worse in the street (nice area this!) and even, dare I say, escaping from my lips if someone pulls out on me in the car!

I’m not talking about hard core or explicit lyrics - for fucks sake he even got twitchy about the Fairy Tale of New York.

So is he being unreasonable and I now have to wait until they discover something far worse for themselves before I can play the Beautiful South ( or my lovely punk collection) again?

I do remember DS singing along to The Stranglers' 'Peaches' when he was about 3. Merrily chiming 'Oh shit! There goes the charabanc' to MIL

I let my dc listen to bad words. Both dc one chimed in with 'F-word croissant' in a supermarket once

Yes
It's just words
Dd used to sing along and sing "beep" instead of the swear words

He is being ridiculous

8 year old DD has her own Spotify playlist and I always try to search the clean version however lately it seems impossible to find them - all the singers seem to think swearing is an essential part of a song! So she has them but knows she mustn't sing those words. She just hums the words instead.

Op, you owe it to your kids to play your punk collection
Just think it they never hear it
That's a far worse thought than using a swear word

Lol does he never swear?

bobbo Almost never! Unlike me

No.
Almost my entire running playlist is very sweary. It would not be good around the children .

My DD has been listening to my music collection forever. We do avoid bands like NOFX and Marilyn Manson but she loves Green Day, Frank Turner, Clutch etc. She is nearly 6. Most of the time she doesn't actually sing the correct words but she also knows that some words are grown up words and not to use them.

How old are the kids as tbh they probably hear far worse in school.

I don’t sensor songs in front of DD who’s 12 now. Haven’t done for years. Yet she’s still super goody two shoes and never swears herself. Despite me dropping the F bomb from time to time

Hate to say it but they really are just words and just because kids hear them doesn’t mean you can’t teach them not to say them.

I think your DH is in for a shock as the kids get older

I’m not talking about hard core or explicit lyrics - for fucks sake he even got twitchy about the Fairy Tale of New York.

He's right about that one, because it's fucking dreadful. I don't know what the otherwise fabulous Kirsty MacColl was thinking of, getting involved with that utter dross.

Depends on the age. I censor my Spotify playlist if my toddler is listening, but I'll possibly relax when I get older. I was listening to cheery classics like Fucking Hostile and So What? before I hit my teens, but I've still never sworn in front of my mother! 😬

I think people get a bit precious about swearing. A lot of the best music has swearing in it and restricting decent music I think is a lot worse than letting kids hear the odd swear word. We swear a bit and listen to music with swear words. Neither of our children swear as they know it’s for adults, like driving, drinking etc and wouldn’t dream of doing it themselves.

Judging by DS’ friends, the kids who are always swearing in the play ground are the ones with the parents who never swear . Like the child hears the word for the first time and gets super excited.

I would say it depends on the kids tbh and whether they are mature enough to know not to repeat them.

I didn't swear around my kids when they were young but they are now young teens so I've relaxed a bit. They know swear words, I've said they can use them around their peers but not to me. I'm not their mate, I'm their mum, and they both understand that.

Working in a primary school I know there are some kids in the younger years who know swear words and use them when angry/frustrated etc towards others including staff and it's not good to be honest. I'm probably old fashioned in that, but I don't like to hear kids in particular swearing. Let's not pretend "they're just words", because they are designed to shock and offend.

My little brother used to listen to a lot of my rock music when he was about 4, and he used to sing along but decided himself to change the swear words. I remember one of his substitutions was “bucket all” instead of “fuck it all”. It was very sweet!

Dd was listening to my iPod and I thought her face looked a bit weird, I took the headphones in time to hear success is my only motherfucking option, failures not having completely forgotten that Eminem song was on there!^^

I'm usually more concerned about content than individual words. Does he not care what the songs are about? So long as they don't swear?

Well, I wouldn't play, say, Killing in the Name, as the swearing is very obvious, but a song where it was a bit less in your face? I might, and probably have without even realising it

We were fairly careful until DD was about 5 and knew how we felt about swearing in general. At that point, we explained that swearing in music, movies etc. was part of what the artist was trying to say with their work. So it's o.k. to sing along to something with a swear in it but not o.k. to swear in real life.

As it happens, DD always refused to sing the swear words and would indicate that that was the part that I should sing for her.

Spotify is horrendous sometimes, it’s not the swearing alone it’s the sexually aggressive lyrics that are disgusting really. I’d prefer they sweared than this stuff about what he’s going to do to her that night (and it’s no Marvin Gaye)