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New years eve loneliness

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mummyp3e3 · 31/12/2018 17:47

Hi all,

OH and I had a horrendous argument last Thursday and he hasn't spoken to me since, we were supposed to go for a meal tonight with LO at 6pm just to go out as a family but he's cancelled the table, he had to work today and I know when he's like this not to bother calling or texting as everything gets ignored, he's barely spent any time with our 14 week old baby since we argued, yesterday I handed her over to him and said spend some time with her after 15 minutes he just put her back in her bouncer and put her in the bedroom where I was.. I was heartbroken for DD as she looks at OH like he's her entire world and he just palmed her off :( I don't think he'll be home tonight to see the new year in with us, I plan on putting LO to bed, having a cup of tea, watching the soaps then going to bed.. I'm trying not to feel plagued by loneliness or bursting into tears but it's so hard not to, my heart is breaking for LO. I don't want an argument when LO is in the house, should I just leave him to stew or approach him when he gets in/tomorrow. I can ask the next door neighbour to watch LO whilst I approach him as I don't want her exposed to this.

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brizzledrizzle · 31/12/2018 17:49

Come and join the MN virtual party - we have food, cats, music and hopefully some guest waiters from last year.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3465417-For-anyone-whos-staying-in-on-NYE-shall-we-make-our-own-party?msgid=83731013

GimmeGimmeHellYeah · 31/12/2018 17:55

So sad you are feeling like this, with your holiday with the abusive partner last week, and the situation with your mum...

mummyp3e3 · 31/12/2018 18:01

@GimmeGimmeHellYeah that's part of the reason he's not met my family, police turned up at my parents house looking to speak to me, they have no interest in meeting him :(

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Ginger1982 · 31/12/2018 18:04

Why are you with him??

CakeRudolph · 31/12/2018 18:06

Do you have any friends not doing anything or with kids themselves that you could go over to see the new year in with?

Extravagant · 31/12/2018 18:06

Bless you, I know you are trying to break free from him and the sooner you do, the sooner you can put all this unpleasantness behind you. Life is just too short and I wish you all the best with your lovely daughter. Tonight, I would just get a takeaway and have a hot bath (don’t bother confronting him, just leave as soon as you can) x

mummyp3e3 · 31/12/2018 18:10

If I'm honest I don't know anymore :( before LO and pregnancy it was a really good relationship and he was a good man but I don't know what happened, we planned to have a baby when we were in a good place, but soon as we found out I was pregnant everything became awful. I need to put my daughter first. I know that. The amount of times I've gone upstairs and got a suitcase out to pack, I only have myself to blame when it comes to still being here.

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JudasPrudy · 31/12/2018 18:12

I'd change the locks and tell him not to bother coming home at all.

BabySharkAteMyHamster · 31/12/2018 18:13

Sod this for a dickhead.

You have parents, go to them. And make sure your resolution is to bin the twat.

Get your stuff together and go, now.

mummyp3e3 · 31/12/2018 20:02

I wish I could change the locks :( it's his house

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