Aibu with rule for 13yr old ds

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Due to work schedules there are days when my 13 yr old is at home alone for the day during school holidays. At times he wants to have a friend over when we're gone. I am not keen on this but want a consensus on whether ibu. His best friend is a girl but as she apparently likes girls i can be reasonably confident they will behave. They tend to play the switch, watch YouTube and listen to music like every other teen.

I cannot imagine any reason why you would not allow your child to have a friend over (or go out) so yes YABU.

Why are you not keen? You know him (and her) better than we do?

I would trial it for maybe an afternoon as opposed to then whole day.

You want your son to be alone all day during his holidays? Why??

Forget that she apparently likes girls for a minute

Why do you think your 13 year old child might want to have sex with his best friend?

If there's so much as an inkling that might be the case, then YANBU not to leave them alone together all day.

Yes, YABU - why on earth would you stop your child seeing their friend?

I think that you should give them a chance.

It’s really great that he’s actually asked you.

If they were to get up to anything they would do it whatever the obstacles. But right now he’s being respectful and truthful with you and I think you should return that by trusting him.

Have a limited number by all means but don't ban him from having friends over. Poor kid will just be sitting alone. Unless there's some drip feed that he has a history or organising raves or running a brothel while you're out.

If they were to get up to anything they would do it whatever the obstacles. But right now he’s being respectful and truthful with you and I think you should return that by trusting him.

That's true. I'm sure he just wouldn't tell the OP and she'd be none the wiser that he had his friend round.

Unless there's some drip feed that he has a history or organising raves or running a brothel while you're out.

Don't mean to drip feed but I got home from work early to find them both here despite him knowing the rule. To be clear I wasn't keen on him having anyone over-male or female, around here the likelihood is if he goes to a friend's house there would be an adult in the house or nearby. I don't want to be responsible for another kid in my house with no adults all day especially if their parents assume I am there.

Tell the girl’s parents you won’t be there and let them choose.

Totally unreasonable to ban him having a friend over.

I have a DS 13 who is just 'good friends' with a girl (also 13). I came home unexpectedly and found them both in his bed! They swear they were only 'cuddling'.

I wouldn’t allow a thirteen year old boy and girl to be unserpervised in your house for the whole day no. Just remember if anything untoward occurs or is alleged it’s your son that takes the bullet.