For the past 7 years we have celebrated NYE with a group of close friends, taking it in turns to host the party. One of my other friends outside of this group asked me a while ago if we could go to hers instead this year. I originally said yes but over the last few months she has been really flaky about arrangements to meet up, inviting us to stuff and then changing her mind last minute or leaving us hanging about waiting for her to make decisions about invitations we extended to her and her family. We stopped socialising as much and she has spent much more time with her other group of friends.
In the meantime the usual gang started talking about NYE and we got our invitation to join them. My DH really wanted to join the usual gang and because of other friend being so flaky we made the decision to go to her party for the first part of the evening and then join the usual gang later about 10pm. I told flaky friend ages ago that this is what we were planning to do - she was a bit put out but accepted it and our other group are more than happy for us to join them a bit later.
However as the party draws near, she keeps making comments like ‘such a shame you’ve got to leave early’ and ‘what’s the point if you aren’t going to be here for midnight etc’ and I’m feeling guilty. I’m worried about how to leave the party later - we have booked a taxi but I think she is going to give me a hard time. There will be loads of people at her party so it’s not like we are going to leave a big hole in numbers. Also although we know most of them, they are not really our friends, they are all hers and I just want to be with our close friends at New Year. AIBU?