AIBU to ask if anyone actually gets their fairytale?

[LoopyLou1981]

Watching a mushy film whilst drinking a glass of wine and feeling suitably hard done by but, has anyone had theur fairytale romance and is still happy?
(Watching my grumpy husband, well into his 2nd bottle of wine, knowing it’s definitely going to be me up with the kids at 6/7ish in the morning despite it being me over the entire Christmas holidays) ... I repeat...feeling hard done by and hoping for happy stories!

My DH treats me like a queen. We have our sadness, we weren’t able to have children, but apart from that it is pretty much the fairytale.

My skin crawls if he tries anything. Everything from the past has mounted up. I just want to run away with the kids

This is very sad reading. Are you hoping to run away into a fairytale?
It's highly unlikely.
But if you are desperately unhappy you can forge a new life for yourself, or work on the relationship you have.

Have you confronted the issues in your relationship that are making you unhappy?

@Bluebell878275 thanks x

I’m so sorry for the people with sad stories but wonderful people to get you through and I’m happy for those who found happiness.
Just looking to take the plunge and get me and the kids out. I just don’t want to sacrifice their lives for mine x

@IHeartKingThistle that is absolutely the fairytale. for you and your family at this sad time.

Don't make the mistake of jumping into another man's arms in hope of some dream. Just focus on you and your kids.

I had it. Then he died when I was pregnant.

Life is basically hard, with wine

I like those films like Before Midnight which follow on from the fairytale. The previous two films build up to the couple finding each other, realising they are 'the one'. The third film is 10 years on, awkward kids, bickering, routine sex, massively irritating each other. I won't give away how it ends but life is like that for most I think. Even leaving aside illness / accident etc just normal life especially with kids will take the shine off the sparkliest of fairytales.

I guess it depends on what your fairytale is? Mine was always to live in the countryside with a good man by my side, and dogs at my heels. I have to say my husband is my absolute everything, without a doubt the most selfless, patient and caring person I have ever met and I count myself lucky everyday that I wake up next to him.

I have a happy ending but the road to it was not a fairy tale.
I am the heroine to some in the story and the evil witch to others

2 kids under 5. We r always exhausted. Have had ups and downs but love him v dearly - more than when we married 7 years ago. Could you try marriage counselling or try to get some childcare arranged so u can work on re-connecting and your marriage? It’s so hard doing things with children and work and relatives etc... hope you can give it a try. If u are into silly films, watch date night or couples retreat

The fairytale ends at the wedding bells though. Who's to say that Prince Charming didn't end up a grumpy old man, or Cinderella didn't put on 4 stone and end up addicted to internet bingo sites?

depends which way the wind blows. Today not so, grumpy DH, I"m at work, he doesn't agree to work on New Year's Eve, our washing machine is broke. And it's all MY fault. So there. Today's bound to be a shitty day.

I don't know. Depends on your imagination and needs I guess.

I got the nightmare and I still kick myself. Lots of stuff to work through. I can tell you though that I've never felt more inadequate about anything in my life.

I can't see a happy future, only hassle and stress. It would seem I'm the common denominator sadly.