To not go downstairs...

[KonaMum]

DS is teething I think - dribbly, red cheeks, wants to chew everything, grumpy all day. He was also up every hour and a half last night (possibly unrelated sleep regression). I am shattered. DH took DS about an hour ago and I am resting upstairs. I can hear DS whinging. AIBU to leave DH to get on with it? He’s more than capable and I doubt I can do anything but I still feel really guilty leaving a clearly distressed baby!

Yanbu, get some rest while you can xx

Don’t feel guilty. He’s as much a parent as you are. Sleep if you can.

Take care that he is not actually poorly. dribbly and red cheeks may or may not indicate teething. Often not. If he has a temperature give him some ibuprofen, if he improves in 20 mins he has something going on and is poorly. We tend to blame more than we should on teething

Leave them, but you should actually REST, not muck about on Mumsnet .....

You're not DS's only parent, why feel guilty? DH can deal with his own child, and should. DH comforting your DS in times like this will strengthen their bond, so DS is not always reliant on you.

Nothing wrong with some MN downtime if that's what OP wants.

Yanbu. I have a great bond with my dad probably because he did equal shares of parenting.
Mum had some health problems so it was dad who often got up in the night with me (in the late 60s/early 70s so not particularly common)

I had a little nap, DH made dinner and is now sorting out washing up, chickens, rabbits etc. whilst I feed and hopefully get DS to bed. He’s a good egg. I am just an overbearing mother 😬😂