To ask if you would go to this wedding

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I have NC

If your Dads ex-wife was re marrying. Would you go to the wedding?

Im unsure if it is right to go or not, even though we are invited.

So she's your sisters Mum? Your sisters will be there and you see your ex-step mum periodically?
. I'd go. Whether he likes it or not, she's obviously stood her ground on wanting you there.

It's up to you, I would think.

How does your Dad feel about it? I would also take his feelings into consideration.

Depends on relationship with her really id say.

But you could just go to the reception bit less pressure then

Obviously depends on the relationship but if you're invited then you're presumably close. If my husband's step Mum (his Dad has remarried) was getting married we would absolutely go but that is because he remains close to his SM (she's been in his life since he was 7or so) and his sisters from that marriage so it would be another family wedding.

You can't just put a question like that out there because not everyone has the same stepmum nor ex stepmum for that matter

Well he sounds like an arse for questioning why she is in touch with people she loves, so for that reason I dont think that she should go to the wedding..... but for your half siblings and her then I would go.

If this lady was ‘there’ for me. Then I’d be ‘there’ for her. Excepting the usual moral imperatives.

Families are sooo complicated, and I don't think we have enough information (not trying to urge you to overshare, I just think that we don't have enough information to judge).

My own DM has a not-so-new-anymore bf. He's my age. He has two criminal convictions. He's creepy as fuck!
My mum tells me she's never been so happy (let the joy be unconfined!)
I couldn't hate him more. My mother thinks I'm not being supportive (no, really, when he's such a great catch!)

God knows what I'd do if she married the creepy fucker!

Families are hard!

I think if she's gone to the effort of inviting you, even though her new DH-to-be doesn't really like you, then you SHOULD go because she's demonstrating that you are part of her family and not to be cut out.

Oh gosh he seems a bit jealous, insecure. When did he say that questioning thing? Recently or ages ago? Do you think his feelings have changed and the invite could be an olive branch?
I sit worth being the bigger person and going round and laying it on a bit thick while you thank them both for the invite. So glad you can maintain contact with step mum, how pleased you are they are BOTH inviting you into their new life etc.