To pay for a sleep expert?

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DS2 is 2.5 yo and has never ever ever slept through the night. I have tried lots of different things but nothing has been able to stick and he wakes every single night to get into our bed and cries and cries and cries. Sometimes he starts chatting, sometimes he cries for nothing, when he sharing our bed which is every night he is Kicking his arms and legs out sometimes trying to check that we are still there. We are absolutely exhausted, we have no intimacy in the bedroom because the baby is between us constantly, and we just never ever get to switch off because we are just waiting for it every single night. I want to get a sleep expert to come and help us but my husband thinks it's a lot of hooey 😂

Has anyone used anyone like this with any success? At this point I couldn't give a shit how much it costs I've had enough 😭

Can anyone recommend someone? I'm In the North west

My son did not sleep through the night until he was 4.5 years old. I spent £1000s on several sleep consultants including one which charged me £1,500 (10 years ago) which did not help. The advice which ended up working cost £60 from one of those sleep helplines. I recommend them although I could not tell you which one I used. Also please take him to a cranial Oesto - tight muscles in neck created during birth affect sleep.

I did. I used Ann Caird. DD was a horrible sleeper up until she was well over 2 and I just needed someone to tell me what to do. DH and I were too tired to formulate any sort of sensible plan and completely done in by it all, I was also pregnant. Best money I’ve ever spent. DD slept through the night on our first day following the advice given (although it took some time to settle her), which was pretty bloody lucky and a complete shock. It wasn’t as easy as that but a year on DD is a reliable sleeper and we know how to deal with sleep issues much more confidently.

Best money I ever spent. DS had PTSD rages in the middle of the night. He would wake me up hysterical and ripping my hair out. I started losing my mind. His rages would last 1-2 hours. I called one that specialized in kids who've experienced trauma (he had just turned 2) and it was the best thing I'd ever done! You have to follow the instructions to a T but I found they worked. It wasn't easy and sometimes felt pointless but eventually it worked. Go for it!!!

I'm too Wimpy to consider doing it on my own I don't think I've got it in me

Nope not unreasonable. Good use of money when you are really struggling. We used Andrea Grace too. I couldn’t stand it any more when i was 8 months pregnant with no 2, working full time, with a three year old waking multiple times a night and taking hours to go back to sleep each time. Seriously OP get on it!

After 45min waking for the last 3 nights and most of the last 9months I've bit the bullet and contacted a sleep person. I just can't carry on with it as it is. I've not had longer than 3 hrs sleep since he was born!

Napping is a battle also.

He suffers from reflux and allergies which I think are mostly under control and we've lurched from sickness bug to cold to teething to hand foot and mouth to a cold this week which I know doesn't help but it's got to get better surely?!

I can't leave him as unless he sleeps in the pushchair no one else can get him down. I have never let him spend the night in the pushchair despite my husband wanting me to to give me a break.

He's feeding all night despite eating 3 meals and snacks a day I suspect it's comfort but I can't break it.

Feeling depressed and fed up about it all, I thought it would be getting easier, I thought I'd get some evenings back, it's not.

Sorry to hijack the post x

Another vote for Ann Caird here - she literally saved me from losing my mind when DS was 6 months old and had never left for more than a couple of hours at a time. Best money I have ever spent, and it’s all done over Skype and email so can be done wherever you’re based. And all v gentle too.

DH said last night he can do it himself, so I agreed.... (I can't bear the crying)

He woke up at 145 crying, DH kept
Putting him back down and stroking his hair, he kept nodding off then waking again For 2 hours, then at about 345 he fell asleep and was still in bed when DH alarm went off at 8!!! This is unheard of, NEVER happened before.

Hoping for more of the same tonight, i was awake all the while along with DH but if I was involved in the room I would've called it off, DH is much more brutal

Anyway I'll let u know how it works 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

My Health Visitor cured my DS1 in five days, and it didn't cost a penny.

We used a sleep consultant when 6mths of not sleeping turned me into a loon.
Changed our lives.
It gave us focus and a plan to deal with the problem whereas before we'd been floundering in the dark (literally).
Do it, save yourself.

I'd happily send you the info we were given but it relates to a 6mth old.

Sorry, just seen your update.
Good work!