Another gift one - give them to charity or intended recipient?

[PookieDo]

I broke up with a guy I had been seeing a few months right before Christmas. We both had children of very different ages and met up all as ‘friends’ a couple of times. I broke up with him as we had a big disagreement and didn’t feel like it was worth continuing something so new but already broken. He disagreed and wanted to continue and was upset but we have not spoken for a week now.

We set a small budget for gifts (£30) with something for DC and one another. Now they are sitting in my living room.

I don’t want these gifts taking up room anymore but neither do I want to drop them off and risk end up having to talk to him (I don’t have receipts).

I think I should donate them to charity but I feel slightly guilty about not giving them to his small DC.

Doorstep drop them off or give them to a charity?

Did your DC receive gifts from him at Christmas?

If the child's gift is something you know she or he would love, leave it on the doorstep. If it's just some generic token toy, charity. Give the present for your ex to charity, else he'll think it's an olive branch from you.

Charity. I wouldn't want to continue any kind of contact and I doubt his children are expecting them.

No he didn’t give us anything
I agree I think the olive branch is what puts me off he may see it as an opportunity to try win me back

Give the present for your ex to charity, else he'll think it's an olive branch from you.

Absolutely. Just give them all away, or regift elsewhere. He’d see it as encouragement otherwise.

As he didn't give your DC anything then definitely give to charity.

How old re your kids? Are they still going to parties? As worthy as it is giving them to charity, sometimes it handy to top up the present box so you are not caught on the hop.

I just opened them all to assess the situation. No mine are older teens

Desktop drum kit - charity! (Why did I buy this)
2 kids games - charity
Star Wars socks - charity
Grow your own bonsai tree - unsure what to do with this....
Sweets - given to my DC
Box of posh cheese and crackers with a lovely serving bowl - DC want to eat it
Guinness chocolate - no one likes this

Grow the Bonsai tree yourself if you don’t want to chuck it.

Have you seen how complicated they are? I never realised. I need to put it in various places including the fridge for weeks on end!

I think you need to give him the grow your own bonsai tree. It will annoy him.

Sell on Facebook sales even getting a few quid would be better then nothing

If the charity shop don't want the bonsai, put it on Freecycle, it's the sort of thing I might think I'll give it a go but wouldn't want to spend money on.