To call the police

[Ilikedampcake]

Feeling a bit unsure about this one, although as it’s done it’s a bit late.

I was outside earlier having a cigarette and heard a couple rowing, well in fact she was screaming get off me and he was attempting to drag her up the street.
I live on a busy road, so lots of people would have heard the racket, I called the police. They did come out and knocked on my door to speak to me, apparently she was just drunk and refusing to walk any further. I was originally concerned I’d wasted their time but now I’m worried I’ve made things worse for her.

YANBU. You did the right thing and maybe he’ll think twice before he does it again.

You did the right thing.
For all you knew she could of been forced to walk against her will. You weren't to know she was drunk.

You did the right thing.

If you flip it and a woman was found dead in your street & you hadn’t responded.

I know what you mean about worrying about making it worse though

Absolutely the right thing

You did the right thing. For all you knew he could have been a complete stranger who was trying to attack her. I would have done the same.

You did the right thing.

You did the right thing. It more than likely sobered them up and prevented more fighting.

He could have been kidnapping her. The best scenario is always for a potential crime to be reported and turn out to be nothing.

You did the right thing

Defo the right thing OP xx

If you hadn’t done it what would you have been thinking now, you did the right thing

It's difficult, isn't it? Years ago my neighbours overheard my ex beating me and phoned the police. They came out and my ex charmed them into believing it was just an argument that got out of hand, and we were so sorry for wasting their time. It did make things worse for me - he didn't shove me against the party wall or throw me down the stairs again, but he did strangle me (and i knew not to make any noise in case the police were called again). However, i am glad they did call the police on balance, because if he had gone too far at least my body would have been found.

You can't torture yourself thinking you may have made it worse for her. You may have stopped the treatment for the time being, and prevented further harm.

Right thing.
The more it gets called out, the better.
As for making things worse - I can understand that worry, but in the long run things are a lot worse for women when men believe there will be no consequences.
Men like that are not going to go lightly on a woman just because tonight, nobody reported them.

Damned if you do and damned if you don’t, unfortunately.

You may have made it worse for her, but had the situation been different you may have saved her life and without a crystal ball, you did the right thing. Hope for the best.

You've done the right thing, you didn't know what was going on and its always better to be safe than sorry. She could have been in real danger and everyone was waiting for someone else to do something.

If she's drunk and he really was just trying to get her home, well the police turning up might well have helped anyway. When I was running pubs I used to walk up past the clubs late at night to get home, there's a few times I've seen men trying to get drunk women home safe and getting beaten up in the process, either by the women or by passers by that step in.

You did the right thing.

Not long after we moved in I called the police as the woman next door was screaming blue murder saying she was being killed and doors were being smashed. They came and were inside the house for a while. Now we’ve been here a while I’m used to the rows next door and the violence and screaming goes both ways, they’re just horrific, apparently they’ve been knocking six bells out of each other for 20 years.

I haven’t called the police again but I would if it sounded really serious as I couldn’t cope with thinking no one cared and one of them was badly injured or killed.

I've called the police when I wasn't even sure where the people were. Could hear them fighting over the TV with my doors and windows closed. Was prolonged and when she started screaming you didn't need to hit him, I called the local police station and reported it. They weren't on my street, but obviously close enough to be heard so I asked the cops if they could do a drive around to make sure she was ok. They were really good about it.